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A two rak'at prayer that a married person establishes is worthier than when a bachelor keeps up prayers at nights and fasts during the days.The Holy Prophet [saw],Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 384 Importance of Early Marriage in IslamYouth and Spouse selection
Duas /Recitations to get Married | Special for daughters
Dua'a 181 Recite the following du-a'a after giving sadaqa to deserving mumin .
-Dua'a 182 According to Biharul Anwar to invoke the almighty Allah that a grown up boy or girl be suitably married recite the following du-a'a 100 times daily for 40 consecutive days after any obligatory salat.
-Dua'a 183 It is written in Bihar al Anwar that if a grown up girl is not receiving any offer of marriage, her father should pray a 2 rak-at salat (like Fajr salat) on Friday after Jumu-ah prayers and after the salam go into Sajdah and recite surah al Muzzammil (chapter 73) 21 times. Inshallah very soon she will be married to a suitable man.
Dua'a 184 It is written in Biharul Anwar to write the following portion of verse 132 of at Ta Ha on a paper with the solution of musk, saffron and rose water and bind it as a Ta'wid on the right arm, if a man desires to be married soon. Bind another Ta'wid like above on the right arm of the man or woman who is negotiating the proposal of marriage.
-Dua'a 185 It is written in Kanzul Maknun to write the following du-a'a on a paper like a Ta'wid and bind it on the right arm of the grown up girl who is not receiving any offer of marriage. Inshallah, soon she will be married. As there is ismi a'z'am in this du-a'a, it should be removed during menses.
8. Salaat of Haajat ' Narrated by Imam Reza (a.s.) (For Marriage) Imam Reza (a.s.) said:
'Whenever you intend to marry, ask for the blessings of Allah (s.w.t.) and proceed to His solicitation. Then perform two units prayer and raise your hands for supplication and says:
Behaar al-Anwaar, vol. 91, p. 387
Dua'a 186 Similar dua for proposal of Marriage.
According to Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq(as), whoever desires to marry should recite the following du-a'a before making a formal request for marriage.
In case a boy or a girl has not been able to get married and wishes to do so ,Recite foll :-
-Recite Surah al Ahzaab (chapter 33) regularly.
-Recite Surah al Mumtahinah (chapter 60) five times daily,
-Recite surah at Taha (chapter 20) and blow breath on a glass of water and let the girl drink it.
-Sura-e-Muzammil each day once for 41 days & pray for it
REF: Wazaif-ut-talib, pg no. 76.
-Recite verse 36 of Yasin 100 times before salat of tahajjud for 40 days
-Recite Surah Furqan Ayat 74,75 & 76 21 times for 3 days & pray for nikah
-Recite Surah Tariq Ch 86 3 times esp on Arafat day during hajj on plains of Arafah,ask someone going ,or do this daily from home
Perform the following a'mal of du-a'a of Mashlul (Bihar)
(i) Recite Du-a'a al Mashlul preferably after Fajr salat or any obligatory salat for 40 consecutive days.
(ii) Do not eat animal flesh
(iii) Always remain the state of Ablution
(iv) Wear Ihram dress at the time of reciting the du-a'a
Dua'a 187
-It is written in Behaarul Anwaar that if unmanageable impediments are obstructing your marriage write the following verses (Taahaa: 131, 132) with saffron and keep it on the body. Inshallah all hindrances will disappear.
Chapter of ease in marriage of daughter/s ( Source Tohfatul Hashmiya)
It is narrated from Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq (a.s.) that he said: One who has an unmarried daughter in the house should write Surah Ahzab on deerskin and keep it in a container and close the lid tightly in the house where she lives. Very soon a groom would be found for her by the leave of Allah.
Also mentioned for the marriage of daughter; It is that the Surah Shura be written with كهيعص on a white clear paper by musk, saffron and rose water. Wash it with water and sprinkle it upon the head of the daughter whose marriage is intended and the aim shall be achieved by way of ease in the marriage by the leave of Allah.
For one who intends to marry and does not want his request rejected; It is narrated from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) that he said: One who writes seven verses and puts it on a green cloth and sends it to people he will not be rejected, his intention shall be fulfilled by the permission of Allah.
It is that you write the holy verses by musk, saffron and rose water from the beginning of Surah Fath till the seventh verse on the dress of the unmarried girl that she wears and the following are to be written:
188 -To get your Daughter married in a good family the following A’amal is recommended
i) Recite two rak-at salat with the niyat of hajaat.
ii) Then recite 11 times salawat.
iii) Then recite the five tasbih of Sayyida Fatima Zehra as under :
allaahu akbar 34 times, alhamdulillah 34 times subhanallah 33 times laa ilaha illallah once
iv) Recite 11 times salawat.
v) Then recite the following Surahs consequently: Taha (#20), Shu-ara (#26), Naml (#27), Qasas (#28), Ya Sin (#36) & Shura (#42).
Beseech Allah swt with intercession of the 14 Masumin (a.s.) and the marriage relationship of Imam Ali (a.s.) and Sayyida Fatima (a.s.) and pray for the girls of our community and then your own daughter(s).
Recite Sura 19 Maryam daily Girl herself should recite or the mother
On the good fortune for the daughters ;
One who intends success and good fortune for his daughter, should give in Sadaqah (Charity) some dates for the sake of Allah, the Exalted, in the same way: He should calculate her age and for each year he should take twelve dates. If her age is 20 years then he should give 240 dates and it is necessary that he should recite Surah Fath, Surah Yasin and Surah Nasr on the dates. He would indeed achieve his aim by the power of Allah.
For fulfilling ones intention one should write the following supplication and tie it up in the hair of the daughter for forty days:[2] Surah Zariyat 51:49
As for his own needs, he should write this supplication and fasten it in her neck, then soon she will be married after 40 days, if Allah wills:
[4] Jame al-Fawaid, Ash-Shaykh Habib al-Akshari an-Najafi, Pg. 215
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1. Try to be in Wuďū for as much of the night as possible, and especially during the amaals below.
2. Begin by praising Allāh (SwT), then say Allāhu Akbar (أللهُ أكَبر), followed by a Ŝalawāt (أللهم صلى على محمّد و آل محمّد).
3. Recite a two Rak°at Ŝalāt, with the intention of ‘Mustaĥab Qurbatan IlAllāh (SwT)’ [a recommended prayer, seeking the pleasure of Allāh (SwT)], followed by a Ŝalawāt.
4. Recite the following Duā, followed by a Ŝalawāt. First the groom should recite it, after which the bride should say: Ilāhī Amīn [May Allāh (SwT) accept this].
أَللٌّهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِي إِلْفَهَا وَ وُدَّهَا وَ رِضَاهَا وَ رَضِّـنِي بِهَا ثُمَّ اجْمَعْ بَيْنَـنَا بِأَحْسَنِ اجْتِمَاعٍ وَ أَسَرِّ ائْتِلاَفٍ فَإِنَّكَ تُحِبُّ
الْحَلاَلَ وَ تَكْرَهُ الْحَرَام.
allaahummar-zuqnee ilfahaa wa wuddahaa wa rezaahaa wa arzenee behaa wajma’ baynanaa be-ahsanij temaa-i’n asarre telaafin fa-innaka tohibbul halaala wa tukrehul haraama.
“O Allāh (SwT)! Bless me with her affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her, and bring us together in the best form of a union and in absolute harmony; surely You like lawful things and dislike unlawful things.”
in Behaarul Anwaar from Imam Muhammad bin Ali al-Baqir (a.s.)
5. Even if a couple are not intending to conceive on the wedding night, it is recommended that the following Duās are recited for righteous children (whenever they are conceived):
a. The groom should then place his right palm on the bride’s forehead facing Qibla and recite:
أَللٌّهُمَّ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا وَ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْـتُهَا فَإِنْ قَضَيْتَ لِي مِنْهَا وَلَداً فَاجْعَلْهُ مُبَارَكاً تَقِيًّا مِنْ شِيعَةِ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَ لاَ تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيهِ شِرْكاً وَ لاَ نَصِيباً.
“O Allāh! I have taken her as Your trust and have made her lawful for myself by Your words. Therefore, if you have decreed for me a child from hver, then make him/her blessed and pious from among the followers of the family of Muĥammad; and do not let the Satan have any part in him/her.”
b. The following Duā should also be recited:
أَللٌّهُمَّ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُهَا وَ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا. أَللٌّهُمَّ اجْعَلْهَا وَلُوداً وَدُوداً لاَ تَفْرَكُ تَأْكُلُ مِمَّا رَاحَ وَ لاَ تَسْأَلُ عَمَّا سَرَحَ.
“O Allāh! I have made her lawful for myself with Your words, and I have taken her in Your trust. O Allāh! Make her fertile and devoted.”
6. The groom should wash the bride’s feet and sprinkle that water in all the four corners of the room and house. Allāh (SwT) will remove 70,000 types of poverty, 70,000 types of blessings will enter the house and 70,000 blessings will come upon the bride and groom. The bride will be safe from insanity, ulcers and leprosy.8
7.It is narrated from Imam Jafar al-Sadiq (a.s.) that on wedding night, when the bridegroom goes to his bride, he should sit facing qibla, put his right hand on the forehead of the bride and recite the following dua:
اَللّٰهُمَّ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا وَ بِكَـلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُهَا فَإِنْ قَضَيْتَ لِي مِنْهَا وَلَدًا فَاجْعَلْهُ مُبَارَكًا تَقِيًّا مِنْ شِيْعَةِ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَ لَا تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيهِ شِرْكًا وَ لَا نَصِيْبًا.
allaahumma be amaanateka akhaztohaa wa bekalemaatekas tahlaltohhaa fa-in qazayta lee minhaa waladan faj-a’lho mobaarakan taqiyyan min shee-a’te aale mohammadin wa laa taj-a’lish shaytaane feehi shirkan wa laa naseeban.
O Allah, by Your (declaration of) security I have taken her, and through Your words I have regarded her as lawful (for me). If you decree a child for me from her, then make him blessed, god-fearing, from the Shia of AhIul Bayt, and do not give Shaytan a part and a share in him.
Nikah Sermon
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
اَلْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ اِقْرَارًا بِنِعْمَتِهِ وَلآَ اِلَهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ اِخْلاَصًا لِوَحْدًا نِيَّتِهِ وَ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَي مُحَمَّدٍ سَيِّدِ بَرِيَّتِهِ وَ عَلَي الْاَصْفِيَآءِ مِنْ عِتْرَتِهِ اَمَّا بَعْدُ فَقَدْ كَانَ مِنْ فَضْلِ اللهِ عَلَي الْاَنَامِ اَنْ اَغْنَاهُمْ بِالْحَلاَلِ عَنِ الْحَرَامِ فَقَالَ سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالٰي وَانْكِحُوْ الْاَيَامٰي مِنْكُمْ وَ الصَّالِحِيْنَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَ اِمَآئِكُمْ اِنْ يَّكُوْنُوْا فُقَرَآءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ وَ اللهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيْمٌ. وَ قَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ اٰلِهِ وَ سَلَّمَ تَنَاكَحُوْا وَ تَنَاسَلُوْا تَكْثُرُوْا فَاِنِّيْ اُبَاهِيْ بِكُمُ الْاُمَمَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَ لَوْ بِالسِّقْطِ وَ قَالَ النِّكَاحُ مِنْ سُنَّتِيْ فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِيْ فَلَيْسَ مِنِّيْ وَ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَي مُحَمَّدٍ وَّ اٰلِهِ الطَّيِّبِيْنَ الطَّاهِرِيْنَ.
Bismillaahir Rah’maanir Rah’eem. Al h’amdu lillaahi iqraaran bi ni’matihi wa laa ilaaha illallaahu ikhlaas’an li wah’daniyyatihi wa s’allallaahu a’laa muh’ammadin sayyidi bareeyatihi wa a’laa as’fiyaai min I’tratihi amma ba’du faqad kaana min faz”lil laahi a’lal anaami an aghnaahum bil h’alaali a’nil h’araami fa qaala sub h’aanahu wa ta’ala wan kih’ul ayaami minkum was’ s’aalih’eena min I’baadikum wa imaa-ikum in’y yakoonu fuqraa-a yughnihimul laahu min faz”lihi wal laahu waasiu’n a’laihim. Wa qaala rasoolul laahi s’allallaahu a’laihi wa aalihi wa sallam tanaakah’u wa tanaasaloo takthuru fa inni ubaahi bikumul umama yaumal qiyaamati wal au bissiqt’I wa qaalan nikaah’u min sunnati faman raghiba a’n sunnati fa laisa minni wa s’allallaahu a’laa muh’ammadinw wa aalihit’ t’ayyibeenat’ t’aahireen.
Praise be to Allah confessing to His bounties and there is no god except Allah with sincere belief in His Oneness. And bliss of Allah be on Muhammad the chief of the creatures and on his chosen ones from his progeny. So to say: among the bounties of Allah upon the mankind is that He made it needless with lawful from that which is unlawful. Thus, Allah, the Glorified and the High said: And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing. And the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.s.) said: “Marry and increase your population, for I will boast of my large Ummah on the Day of Judgment.” And he said: Nikah is from my Sunnah. Thus one who abandons my Sunnah is not from me. And may Allah bless Muhammad and the chaste and purified progeny.
Nikah Seegha (Formula)
Full Nikah Seegha (Formula)desktop
1. When the bride and the bridegroom, both are adult and sane and they want to recite their own Nikah Seegha and they can also pronounce Arabic properly, they should recite as follows: After the sermon the main rite of marriage begins. Given here is the minimum that must be recited, as it appears in the risālas of the mujtahidsThe representative of the bride says:
زَوَّجْتُ مُوَكِّلَتِىْ بِمُوَكِّلِكَ عَلَى الصِّدَاقِ الْمَعْلُوْمِ
Zawwajtu-ka muwakkilat-ī….(name of the bride)
muwakkila-ka…..(name of bridegroom) ‘ala s-sadāqi l-ma ‘lūm.
I marry my client,……(name of the bride) to your client,….(name of bridegroom) for the dower that was agreed.
The representative of the bridegroom answers immediately:
قَبِلْتُ التَّزْوِيْجَ لِمُوَكِّلِىْ عَلَى الصِّدَاقِ الْمَعْلُوْم
Qabiltu t-tazwīja li-muwakkil- ….(name of the bridegroom) ‘alas-sadāqi l-ma‘luma.
I accept on behalf of my client. …(name of bridegroom) for the dower that was agreed.
The marriage is now complete and the man and woman become lawful to each other.
It should be noted that assent on the part of the bride’s wakil, and
the acceptance on the part of the bridegroom’s representative even once is
enough; the phrasea are repeated with a change of words five times merely as a
recommended precaution.
THE PERMANENT MARRIAGE RITE WITH NO REPRESENTATIVES
The rite for a man and a woman do not want to engage representative for the recitation of the formula of ‘aqd is as follows:
The bride says: زَوَّجْتُكَ نَفْسِىْ عَلَىالْمَهْرِ الْمَعْلُوْمِ
Zawwajtu-ka nafsī ‘ala ’l-mahri ’l-ma‘lūm.
I have married mayself to you for the dower that was agreed.
The bridegroom answers: قَبِلْتُ التَّزْوِيْجَ
Qabiltu t-tazwīj. I accept the marriage.
Du‘ā at the wedding ceremony Source pdf Pdf
It is recommended that after the solemnization of an Islamic marriage the one conducting the wedding should supplicate for the couple. After the marriage of Amīrul Mu’minīn Ali b. Abī Tālib (as) to Sayyida Fātimah bint Rasūlillāh(sa), the following morning Holy Prophet(saws) asked Ali(as): how did you find your wife? He said, ‘the best companion in obeying Allah ( ِ نِ للاِ ةَعاَطِىَلَعُِنْوَعْلاَِمْع).’ When the Prophet(saws) asked Fātimah (sa), how she found her husband? She said, ‘the best husband ( عَبَِرْ يَخِ ل )’. The Messenger of Allah recited following Du‘ā for them.
سْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ اَللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلىٰ مُحَمَّدٍ وَّآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ
Bismillāhir-raHmānir-raHīm Allāhumma Salli ‘alā MuHammadin- wa-āli MuHammad
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful O Allah, bless Muhammad and his family
اَللَّهُمَّ اجْمَعْ شَمْلَهُمَا وَألِّفْ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِهِمَا
Allāhumma-jma‘ shamlahumā Wa-allif bayna qulūbihimā
O Allah, unite the two of them and unite their hearts
وَاجْعَلْهُمَا وَذُرِّيَّتَهُمَا مِنْ وَرَثَةِ جَنَّةِ النَّعِيْمِ
Waj‘alhumā wadhurriyatahumā min warathati jannatin-na‘īm
Make the two of them and their progeny amongst the heirs to the Paradise (full) of bliss (cf. Holy Qur’an 26:85)
وَارْزُقْهُمَا ذُرِّيَّةً طَاهِرَةً طَيِّبَةً مُبَارَكَةً
Warzuqhumā dhurriyatan Tāhiratan, Tayyibatan mubārakah
Grant them a pure, pleasant & blessed progeny
وَاجْعَلْ فِى ذُرِّيَّتَهُمَا الْبَرَكَةَ
Waj‘al fī dhurriyatihimal-barakah
Make their progeny (full of) blessings
وَاجْعَلهُمْ أَئِمَّةً يَهْدُونَ بأَمْرِكَ إِلَى طَاعَتِكَ وَيأْمُرُونَ بِمَا يُرْضِيْكَ
Waj‘alhum a’immatan yahdūna bi-amrika ilā Tā‘atik Waya’murūna bimā yardhīka
And make them leaders guiding others by Your command (cf.21:72) to your obedience, commanding that which pleases You
اَللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلىٰ مُحَمَّدٍ وَّآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ
Allāhumma Salli ‘alā MuHammadin- wa-āli MuHammad
O Allah, bless Muhammad and his family
Prophet Muhammad’s (saws)prayer for his daughter and son in-law
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ اَللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلىٰ مُحَمَّدٍ وَّآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ
اَللَّهُمَّ اجْمَعْ شَمْلَهُمَا، وَألِّفْ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِهِمَا، وَاجْعَلْهُمَا وَذُرِّيَّتَهُمَا مِنْ وَرَثَةِ جَنَّةِ النَّعِيْمِ، وَارْزُقْهُمَا ذُرِّيَّةً طَاهِرَةً طَيِّبَةً مُبَارَكَةً، وَاجْعَلْ فِى ذُرِّيَّتَهُمَا الْبَرَكَةَ، وَاجْعَلهُمْ أَئِمَّةً يَهْدُونَ بأَمْرِكَ إِلَى طَاعَتِكَ، وَيأْمُرُونَ بِمَا يُرْضِيْكَ-
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful. O Allah, bless Muhammad and the family of Muhammad
O Allah, unite [the affairs] of the two (i.e. the bride & the groom), and unite the hearts the two
Make them and their children among the heirs of the blissful paradise (Q 26: 85),
Provide them with children that are pure, pleasant and blessed and instill (Your) blessings in their off springs
Make them leaders guiding others by Your command to Your obedience (Q 21:72)
And let them command others to that which pleases You
O Allah, bless Muhammad and the family of Muhammad.
(Ibn Shahar Āshūb, Manāqib Āli Abī Tālib (a), 3:356; also quoted by Majlisī in his BiHār, v. 43, p. 117)
Chapter twenty-seven » The marriage contract
Chapter twenty-seven » Method of saying the marriage contract formula (ṣīghah)
Chapter twenty-seven » Conditions of a marriage contract
Chapter twenty-seven » Situations in which a man and a woman can annul the marriage contract
Chapter twenty-seven » Women with whom marriage is unlawful (ḥarām)
Chapter twenty-seven » Laws of permanent marriage
Chapter twenty-seven » Laws of temporary marriage (mutʿah)
Chapter twenty-seven » Looking at non-maḥram
Chapter twenty-seven » Miscellaneous rulings on marriage
PRECEPTS REGARDING DOWER (MAHR)
The mahr (or sadāq) is the obligatory wedding-gift which the bridegroom undertakes to give the bride.It is a token of friendship, a mark of honour for the woman, and security for her.It becomes the property of the wife and she has full rights to dispose ofit as she likes (see, e.g. Qur’ān4:24, 25,34). Anything which has value can be given as dower, and there is no specified amount.It should not be so high as to be beyond the financial status of the husband;it may be given at, or immediately after, the marriage, or at any time later on; it may be paid in one or several instalments. The woman has the right to allow the husband to have sexual intercourse with her without taking the dower.
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful O Allah, Bless Muhammad and his progeny
Since marriage is a binding contract (‘aqd) in the Islamic laws (the shari‘a), it depends on three essential conditions:
1. the proposal from the bride;
2. and the acceptance from the groom;
3. and the mahr.
Mahr means the consideration that the groom agrees to give to the bride. (See 4:4)
It is the right of the bride and it is for her to specify or fix the mahr. The groom may either accept it or negotiate with her until they reach to an agreement. Mahr is not a price being paid for the lady; it does not mean buying a wife. It is a symbolic gesture of man’s true love for the woman whom he intends to marry. It doesn’t have to be monetary or material; it can even be a service (e.g., teaching the Qur’an or provided for higher education or paying for the hajj, the pilgrimage to mecca , etc). Moreover, the mahr can be immediate or deferred or partly immediate and partly deferred as agreed by both parties.
Besides the three conditions mentioned above, there are no more essential conditions attached to the Islamic marriage contract.
Optional Conditions
However, like any other contract (‘aqd), there is room for optional conditions in the marriage contract as well.
The concept of optional conditions is not an innovation or “a revolutionary concept;” it has existed in the shari‘a laws from the earliest days. Of course, its application in marriage contract has gained popularity in modern times. Shi‘i scholars of the early days of ghaybat, like Shaykh at-Tusi (d. 460 AH) in his an-Nih.yah, al-Khil.f and al- Mabsut, as well as of the later days, like Sayyid Muhsin al-Hakim (d. 1969) in Minh.ju ’s- S.lihiyn, have discussed the concept of “shart dhimn al-‘aqd – a condition attached to the contract.”
Even the marriage contracts of India and Pakistan had provision for “s.’ir shurut—other conditions” which, nonetheless, was left blank by most couples.
By looking at the problems facing Muslims of our time, the contemporary mujtahidin have started highlighting the issue of optional conditions in the marriage contract.
Why Optional Conditions?
The imams of the Islamic centres, the Muslim counselors and social workers have observed that some men abuse the rights given to them in marriage relationship. In order to prevent such situations and equip women with mechanism within the parameters of shari‘a laws, we have started recommending to potential brides and grooms to add a few conditions to their marriage contract. Both parties can put whatever conditions they agree upon except a condition which goes against the shari‘a laws.
The conditions that we recommend are mostly related to the right of divorce and division of property at the time of divorce.
1st Example: The Right of Divorce
Although marriage is sacred in Islam, it is also dissolvable. Divorce is allowed but as the last solution
However, the right of divorce has been given to the husband.
If a situation arises where the wife does not want to continue with the abusive elationship and the husband does not agree to give divorce, then the woman is stuck in that marriage. The Qur’an is very clear that “either retain your wife in goodness or release them with kindness.” There is no third option where a woman is just left “suspended, neither married nor divorced.” Imam Ja‘far as-S.diq (a.s.) said, “When a man intends to marry a woman, he should say, ‘I pledge by the covenant that All.h has taken to retain [my wife] in goodness or to release [her] with kindness.’” However, there are certain men who do exactly the opposite—they leave their wives suspended. How does the Muslim community deal with such situations? There are a variety of pressures which could be brought to bear upon the husband to divorce his wife:
(1) family;
(2) extended family;
(3) community elders.
As a last resort, the woman could approach (4) the mujtahid (a Shi‘a jurist) or his representative to intervene; and if he is convinced that the husband is being unjust, then he has the power to serve a notice to the husband and ask for his consent to divorce the wife. If the husband refuses, then the mujtahid can dissolve the marriage and pronounce the divorce even without the husband’s consent. In Canada , however, not all families have the extended family support to put such pressure; nor do we have a mechanism as a community (e.g., excommunication) to censure the man who is treating his wife unjustly. The only option is to approach the mujtahid; but that process, like any other judicial process, takes its own due time. In order to make things easy and fast in solving such marital problems where an abusive husband is refusing to give divorce, we encourage the couples, at the time of marriage, to add certain optional conditions to the marriage contract as seen below:
The husband gives an irrevocable authorization to the wife to appoint someone as his representative ( w a k i l ) for divorcing her, after seeking approval of the resident ‘alim* or her father* or her brother,* in the following cases:
1. if the husband marries another woman without permission of the wife named in this marriage contract;
2. if the husband ill treats and or physically abuses the wife to such an extent that it becomes extremely difficult for the wife to continue the marital relationship;
3. if the husband abandons the wife and does not provide for her for more than six months continuously;
4. if the husband divorces his wife in the civil court but refuses to give her the religious divorce.
* These are various options in order to prevent emotions from clouding the decision-making process on this serious matter of life.
The first condition might seem to be against the shari‘a law which allows polygamy; but it is not so. The condition does not prevent the husband from marrying a second wife; it gives a right of divorce to the first wife if she wants to disengage herself from this triangle relationship.
By putting these conditions as part of the religious marriage contract, it becomes easier for women to get divorce when they are faced with such situations.
2nd Example: Property Distribution:
From the shari‘a point of view, at the time of divorce, the wife is entitled to:
1. Mahr, if not already paid.
2. Her own property or belongings which she brought with herself at the time of marriage or whatever she acquired by way of earning or gifts or inheritance, etc.
In case of divorce, this leaves many women, especially the housewives, without any financial support. Unfortunately, the secular society as well as the Muslim community does not recognize the contributions of the “housewife.” Women’s liberation movement has degraded the status of the mother and the housewife as opposed to a “career woman.” Her hard work in managing the household, and rearing of healthy and good children who grow up to be productive citizens is not adequately recognized or appreciated even by her peers in the women’s liberation movement. The evolution of her title from “housewife” to “homemaker” has not yet elevated the status of the wife who chooses to stay at home, especially after the birth of her child.
From the Islamic point of view, a wife is not legally required to do the household chores and take care of her own children; it is the husband’s duty to provide for his wife and children. However, on a moral level, the wife is expected to help the husband in managing the household and taking care of the children. This difference on the legal and moral levels is so that a husband shouldn’t think of his wife as a slave or a servant; he should appreciate the contribution of his wife in his life. That is the true partnership in marriage.
It is in this background that we propose the following condition in the marriage contract which provides for some financial compensation for the wife if the husband initiates the divorce.
If the husband initiates the divorce, then the husband will give to his wife one-forth (or one-third or half*) of all the possessions that he acquired during the marriage period. In case of dispute about the cause for divorce, the Shi‘a Ithn.-‘ashari religious authority (the resident ‘.lim or the marriage committee or the arbitration board) will determine whether the divorce was initiated by the husband or the wife. * One-forth or one-third or half are various options that both parties can agree upon.Such a condition will hopefully discourage some brides from asking for exorbitant amount in the deferred mahr as a financial security. Let the mahr be a true consideration from the groom to the bride, and not a financial security certificate for after divorce.Muslims, women and men alike, must realize that getting anything from one’s spouse in form of spousal support or alimony through civil courts will not make it legitimate from the religious point of view. It will be considered ghasbi, usurpation.Such spousal support or alimony can become religiously legitimate only if the issue of division of property was included in the Islamic marriage contract. It must be clarified that the issue of child support is different from the spousal support issue: a father is still responsible for providing for the child even when the mother has the custody.
Other Remarks on Optional Conditions:
Although we do not encourage intra-faith marriage (i.e.,marriage of a Shi‘a Ithna-‘Ashari to a Muslim from other sect), if a Shi‘a Ithna-‘Ashari lady decides to go through such a marriage, then, it is essential to get the right of divorce “if she or her children will not be allowed to practice the Shi‘a rituals and rites.”
Question: Are these optional conditions only valid if they are added to the ‘aqd at the time of marriage or can a couple write up such an agreement even after the marriage? Would such an agreement be valid from religious perspective?
Answer: Yes, any couple who agree on such or other conditions —as long as those conditions do not contravene the shari‘a— can write such an agreement and that will be as valid as a contract signed at the time of the marriage.
A final note: The issue of optional conditions can be very sensitive —more so since it is not common in our communities— therefore, it is absolutely important to discuss and study the issue much before the actual marriage and not at the time of marriage ceremony.
For a sample of the Islamic Marriage Contract, you may refer to www.jaffari.org.
In a famous hadith, `Umar ibn Hanzalah asked Imam Ja`far as-Sadiq (peace beupon him) about the legality of two Shi‘as seeking a verdict from a non-Muslim judge in a dispute over a debt or a legacy. The Imam’s answer was that it was absolutely forbidden to do so. Then Ibn Hanzalah asked what the two should do, and the Imam replied: “They must seek out one of you who narrates our traditions, who is versed in what is permissible and what is forbidden, who is well-acquainted with our laws and ordinances, and accept him as judge and arbiter, for I appoint him as judge over you. If the ruling which he based on our laws is rejected, this rejection will be tantamount to ignoring the order of Allah and rejecting us is the same as rejecting Allah, and this is the same as polytheism.”
Chapter twenty-nine » Divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » The prescribed waiting period (ʿiddah) of a divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » The ʿiddah of a woman whose husband has died
Chapter twenty-nine » Irrevocable (bāʾin) and revocable (rijʿī) divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » Laws of returning to one’s wife
Chapter twenty-nine » Khulʿ divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » Miscellaneous rulings on divorce
SOME REASONS FOR THE ABROGATION OF A PERMANENT MARRIAGE
There are some situation in which the bride or bridegroom can abrogate the marriage and separate without any divorce.
The following list contains some of the defects which, if a man finds them in the woman he married when he had not been informed about them before the marriage, entitle him to abrogate the marriage:
Insanity, blindness,certain sexual abnormalities, paralysis, leprosy, leucoderma, and other similar defects.
Likewise, the woman can abrogate the marriage if, among other things:
1)she comes to know after marriage that her husband had been insane before the marriage,
2)the husband becomes insane after the marriage
3)the husband is impotent.
Nikah Khutba and Seegha
Marriage contract conditions
Wedding Night Aamaal | Guide booklet
Sexual Etiquettes | Islam4u
Divorce
Wedding Night Aamaal
Link to Heavenly Path wedding night section
Extract
1. Try to be in Wuďū for as much of the night as possible, and especially during the amaals below.
2. Begin by praising Allāh (SwT), then say Allāhu Akbar (أللهُ أكَبر), followed by a Ŝalawāt (أللهم صلى على محمّد و آل محمّد).
3. Recite a two Rak°at Ŝalāt, with the intention of ‘Mustaĥab Qurbatan IlAllāh (SwT)’ [a recommended prayer, seeking the pleasure of Allāh (SwT)], followed by a Ŝalawāt.
4. Recite the following Duā, followed by a Ŝalawāt. First the groom should recite it, after which the bride should say: Ilāhī Amīn [May Allāh (SwT) accept this].
الْحَلاَلَ وَ تَكْرَهُ الْحَرَام.
in Behaarul Anwaar from Imam Muhammad bin Ali al-Baqir (a.s.)
5. Even if a couple are not intending to conceive on the wedding night, it is recommended that the following Duās are recited for righteous children (whenever they are conceived):
a. The groom should then place his right palm on the bride’s forehead facing Qibla and recite:
6. The groom should wash the bride’s feet and sprinkle that water in all the four corners of the room and house. Allāh (SwT) will remove 70,000 types of poverty, 70,000 types of blessings will enter the house and 70,000 blessings will come upon the bride and groom. The bride will be safe from insanity, ulcers and leprosy.8
7.It is narrated from Imam Jafar al-Sadiq (a.s.) that on wedding night, when the bridegroom goes to his bride, he should sit facing qibla, put his right hand on the forehead of the bride and recite the following dua:
Nikah Sermon
اَلْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ اِقْرَارًا بِنِعْمَتِهِ وَلآَ اِلَهَ اِلاَّ اللهُ اِخْلاَصًا لِوَحْدًا نِيَّتِهِ وَ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَي مُحَمَّدٍ سَيِّدِ بَرِيَّتِهِ وَ عَلَي الْاَصْفِيَآءِ مِنْ عِتْرَتِهِ اَمَّا بَعْدُ فَقَدْ كَانَ مِنْ فَضْلِ اللهِ عَلَي الْاَنَامِ اَنْ اَغْنَاهُمْ بِالْحَلاَلِ عَنِ الْحَرَامِ فَقَالَ سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالٰي وَانْكِحُوْ الْاَيَامٰي مِنْكُمْ وَ الصَّالِحِيْنَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَ اِمَآئِكُمْ اِنْ يَّكُوْنُوْا فُقَرَآءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ وَ اللهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيْمٌ. وَ قَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ اٰلِهِ وَ سَلَّمَ تَنَاكَحُوْا وَ تَنَاسَلُوْا تَكْثُرُوْا فَاِنِّيْ اُبَاهِيْ بِكُمُ الْاُمَمَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَ لَوْ بِالسِّقْطِ وَ قَالَ النِّكَاحُ مِنْ سُنَّتِيْ فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِيْ فَلَيْسَ مِنِّيْ وَ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَي مُحَمَّدٍ وَّ اٰلِهِ الطَّيِّبِيْنَ الطَّاهِرِيْنَ.
Nikah Seegha (Formula)
Full Nikah Seegha (Formula)desktop
1. When the bride and the bridegroom, both are adult and sane and they want to recite their own Nikah Seegha and they can also pronounce Arabic properly, they should recite as follows: After the sermon the main rite of marriage begins. Given here is the minimum that must be recited, as it appears in the risālas of the mujtahidsThe representative of the bride says:
muwakkila-ka…..(name of bridegroom) ‘ala s-sadāqi l-ma ‘lūm.
THE PERMANENT MARRIAGE RITE WITH NO REPRESENTATIVES
The rite for a man and a woman do not want to engage representative for the recitation of the formula of ‘aqd is as follows:
The bride says:
Du‘ā at the wedding ceremony Source pdf Pdf
It is recommended that after the solemnization of an Islamic marriage the one conducting the wedding should supplicate for the couple. After the marriage of Amīrul Mu’minīn Ali b. Abī Tālib (as) to Sayyida Fātimah bint Rasūlillāh(sa), the following morning Holy Prophet(saws) asked Ali(as): how did you find your wife? He said, ‘the best companion in obeying Allah ( ِ نِ للاِ ةَعاَطِىَلَعُِنْوَعْلاَِمْع).’ When the Prophet(saws) asked Fātimah (sa), how she found her husband? She said, ‘the best husband ( عَبَِرْ يَخِ ل )’. The Messenger of Allah recited following Du‘ā for them.
Prophet Muhammad’s (saws)prayer for his daughter and son in-law
(Ibn Shahar Āshūb, Manāqib Āli Abī Tālib (a), 3:356; also quoted by Majlisī in his BiHār, v. 43, p. 117)
Marriage contract rulings
Chapter twenty-seven » MarriageChapter twenty-seven » The marriage contract
Chapter twenty-seven » Method of saying the marriage contract formula (ṣīghah)
Chapter twenty-seven » Conditions of a marriage contract
Chapter twenty-seven » Situations in which a man and a woman can annul the marriage contract
Chapter twenty-seven » Women with whom marriage is unlawful (ḥarām)
Chapter twenty-seven » Laws of permanent marriage
Chapter twenty-seven » Laws of temporary marriage (mutʿah)
Chapter twenty-seven » Looking at non-maḥram
Chapter twenty-seven » Miscellaneous rulings on marriage
PRECEPTS REGARDING DOWER (MAHR)
The mahr (or sadāq) is the obligatory wedding-gift which the bridegroom undertakes to give the bride.It is a token of friendship, a mark of honour for the woman, and security for her.It becomes the property of the wife and she has full rights to dispose ofit as she likes (see, e.g. Qur’ān4:24, 25,34). Anything which has value can be given as dower, and there is no specified amount.It should not be so high as to be beyond the financial status of the husband;it may be given at, or immediately after, the marriage, or at any time later on; it may be paid in one or several instalments. The woman has the right to allow the husband to have sexual intercourse with her without taking the dower.
An Islamic Marriage Contract
- Sayyid Muhammud Rizvi Al Al Al-Furqan Vol. 1 * 12Jumadi I 1427 * 8 June 2006 * No. 9: www.jaffari.orgIn the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful O Allah, Bless Muhammad and his progeny
Since marriage is a binding contract (‘aqd) in the Islamic laws (the shari‘a), it depends on three essential conditions:
1. the proposal from the bride;
2. and the acceptance from the groom;
3. and the mahr.
Mahr means the consideration that the groom agrees to give to the bride. (See 4:4)
It is the right of the bride and it is for her to specify or fix the mahr. The groom may either accept it or negotiate with her until they reach to an agreement. Mahr is not a price being paid for the lady; it does not mean buying a wife. It is a symbolic gesture of man’s true love for the woman whom he intends to marry. It doesn’t have to be monetary or material; it can even be a service (e.g., teaching the Qur’an or provided for higher education or paying for the hajj, the pilgrimage to mecca , etc). Moreover, the mahr can be immediate or deferred or partly immediate and partly deferred as agreed by both parties.
Besides the three conditions mentioned above, there are no more essential conditions attached to the Islamic marriage contract.
Optional Conditions
However, like any other contract (‘aqd), there is room for optional conditions in the marriage contract as well.
The concept of optional conditions is not an innovation or “a revolutionary concept;” it has existed in the shari‘a laws from the earliest days. Of course, its application in marriage contract has gained popularity in modern times. Shi‘i scholars of the early days of ghaybat, like Shaykh at-Tusi (d. 460 AH) in his an-Nih.yah, al-Khil.f and al- Mabsut, as well as of the later days, like Sayyid Muhsin al-Hakim (d. 1969) in Minh.ju ’s- S.lihiyn, have discussed the concept of “shart dhimn al-‘aqd – a condition attached to the contract.”
Even the marriage contracts of India and Pakistan had provision for “s.’ir shurut—other conditions” which, nonetheless, was left blank by most couples.
By looking at the problems facing Muslims of our time, the contemporary mujtahidin have started highlighting the issue of optional conditions in the marriage contract.
Why Optional Conditions?
The imams of the Islamic centres, the Muslim counselors and social workers have observed that some men abuse the rights given to them in marriage relationship. In order to prevent such situations and equip women with mechanism within the parameters of shari‘a laws, we have started recommending to potential brides and grooms to add a few conditions to their marriage contract. Both parties can put whatever conditions they agree upon except a condition which goes against the shari‘a laws.
The conditions that we recommend are mostly related to the right of divorce and division of property at the time of divorce.
1st Example: The Right of Divorce
Although marriage is sacred in Islam, it is also dissolvable. Divorce is allowed but as the last solution
However, the right of divorce has been given to the husband.
If a situation arises where the wife does not want to continue with the abusive elationship and the husband does not agree to give divorce, then the woman is stuck in that marriage. The Qur’an is very clear that “either retain your wife in goodness or release them with kindness.” There is no third option where a woman is just left “suspended, neither married nor divorced.” Imam Ja‘far as-S.diq (a.s.) said, “When a man intends to marry a woman, he should say, ‘I pledge by the covenant that All.h has taken to retain [my wife] in goodness or to release [her] with kindness.’” However, there are certain men who do exactly the opposite—they leave their wives suspended. How does the Muslim community deal with such situations? There are a variety of pressures which could be brought to bear upon the husband to divorce his wife:
(1) family;
(2) extended family;
(3) community elders.
As a last resort, the woman could approach (4) the mujtahid (a Shi‘a jurist) or his representative to intervene; and if he is convinced that the husband is being unjust, then he has the power to serve a notice to the husband and ask for his consent to divorce the wife. If the husband refuses, then the mujtahid can dissolve the marriage and pronounce the divorce even without the husband’s consent. In Canada , however, not all families have the extended family support to put such pressure; nor do we have a mechanism as a community (e.g., excommunication) to censure the man who is treating his wife unjustly. The only option is to approach the mujtahid; but that process, like any other judicial process, takes its own due time. In order to make things easy and fast in solving such marital problems where an abusive husband is refusing to give divorce, we encourage the couples, at the time of marriage, to add certain optional conditions to the marriage contract as seen below:
The husband gives an irrevocable authorization to the wife to appoint someone as his representative ( w a k i l ) for divorcing her, after seeking approval of the resident ‘alim* or her father* or her brother,* in the following cases:
1. if the husband marries another woman without permission of the wife named in this marriage contract;
2. if the husband ill treats and or physically abuses the wife to such an extent that it becomes extremely difficult for the wife to continue the marital relationship;
3. if the husband abandons the wife and does not provide for her for more than six months continuously;
4. if the husband divorces his wife in the civil court but refuses to give her the religious divorce.
* These are various options in order to prevent emotions from clouding the decision-making process on this serious matter of life.
The first condition might seem to be against the shari‘a law which allows polygamy; but it is not so. The condition does not prevent the husband from marrying a second wife; it gives a right of divorce to the first wife if she wants to disengage herself from this triangle relationship.
By putting these conditions as part of the religious marriage contract, it becomes easier for women to get divorce when they are faced with such situations.
2nd Example: Property Distribution:
From the shari‘a point of view, at the time of divorce, the wife is entitled to:
1. Mahr, if not already paid.
2. Her own property or belongings which she brought with herself at the time of marriage or whatever she acquired by way of earning or gifts or inheritance, etc.
In case of divorce, this leaves many women, especially the housewives, without any financial support. Unfortunately, the secular society as well as the Muslim community does not recognize the contributions of the “housewife.” Women’s liberation movement has degraded the status of the mother and the housewife as opposed to a “career woman.” Her hard work in managing the household, and rearing of healthy and good children who grow up to be productive citizens is not adequately recognized or appreciated even by her peers in the women’s liberation movement. The evolution of her title from “housewife” to “homemaker” has not yet elevated the status of the wife who chooses to stay at home, especially after the birth of her child.
From the Islamic point of view, a wife is not legally required to do the household chores and take care of her own children; it is the husband’s duty to provide for his wife and children. However, on a moral level, the wife is expected to help the husband in managing the household and taking care of the children. This difference on the legal and moral levels is so that a husband shouldn’t think of his wife as a slave or a servant; he should appreciate the contribution of his wife in his life. That is the true partnership in marriage.
It is in this background that we propose the following condition in the marriage contract which provides for some financial compensation for the wife if the husband initiates the divorce.
If the husband initiates the divorce, then the husband will give to his wife one-forth (or one-third or half*) of all the possessions that he acquired during the marriage period. In case of dispute about the cause for divorce, the Shi‘a Ithn.-‘ashari religious authority (the resident ‘.lim or the marriage committee or the arbitration board) will determine whether the divorce was initiated by the husband or the wife. * One-forth or one-third or half are various options that both parties can agree upon.Such a condition will hopefully discourage some brides from asking for exorbitant amount in the deferred mahr as a financial security. Let the mahr be a true consideration from the groom to the bride, and not a financial security certificate for after divorce.Muslims, women and men alike, must realize that getting anything from one’s spouse in form of spousal support or alimony through civil courts will not make it legitimate from the religious point of view. It will be considered ghasbi, usurpation.Such spousal support or alimony can become religiously legitimate only if the issue of division of property was included in the Islamic marriage contract. It must be clarified that the issue of child support is different from the spousal support issue: a father is still responsible for providing for the child even when the mother has the custody.
Other Remarks on Optional Conditions:
Although we do not encourage intra-faith marriage (i.e.,marriage of a Shi‘a Ithna-‘Ashari to a Muslim from other sect), if a Shi‘a Ithna-‘Ashari lady decides to go through such a marriage, then, it is essential to get the right of divorce “if she or her children will not be allowed to practice the Shi‘a rituals and rites.”
Question: Are these optional conditions only valid if they are added to the ‘aqd at the time of marriage or can a couple write up such an agreement even after the marriage? Would such an agreement be valid from religious perspective?
Answer: Yes, any couple who agree on such or other conditions —as long as those conditions do not contravene the shari‘a— can write such an agreement and that will be as valid as a contract signed at the time of the marriage.
A final note: The issue of optional conditions can be very sensitive —more so since it is not common in our communities— therefore, it is absolutely important to discuss and study the issue much before the actual marriage and not at the time of marriage ceremony.
For a sample of the Islamic Marriage Contract, you may refer to www.jaffari.org.
In a famous hadith, `Umar ibn Hanzalah asked Imam Ja`far as-Sadiq (peace beupon him) about the legality of two Shi‘as seeking a verdict from a non-Muslim judge in a dispute over a debt or a legacy. The Imam’s answer was that it was absolutely forbidden to do so. Then Ibn Hanzalah asked what the two should do, and the Imam replied: “They must seek out one of you who narrates our traditions, who is versed in what is permissible and what is forbidden, who is well-acquainted with our laws and ordinances, and accept him as judge and arbiter, for I appoint him as judge over you. If the ruling which he based on our laws is rejected, this rejection will be tantamount to ignoring the order of Allah and rejecting us is the same as rejecting Allah, and this is the same as polytheism.”
D I V O R C E
Divorce RulingsChapter twenty-nine » Divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » The prescribed waiting period (ʿiddah) of a divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » The ʿiddah of a woman whose husband has died
Chapter twenty-nine » Irrevocable (bāʾin) and revocable (rijʿī) divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » Laws of returning to one’s wife
Chapter twenty-nine » Khulʿ divorce
Chapter twenty-nine » Miscellaneous rulings on divorce
SOME REASONS FOR THE ABROGATION OF A PERMANENT MARRIAGE
There are some situation in which the bride or bridegroom can abrogate the marriage and separate without any divorce.
The following list contains some of the defects which, if a man finds them in the woman he married when he had not been informed about them before the marriage, entitle him to abrogate the marriage:
Insanity, blindness,certain sexual abnormalities, paralysis, leprosy, leucoderma, and other similar defects.
Likewise, the woman can abrogate the marriage if, among other things:
1)she comes to know after marriage that her husband had been insane before the marriage,
2)the husband becomes insane after the marriage
3)the husband is impotent.
Dua'a for conceiving Child/Getting pregnant
Duas For conceiving childDuas from 'Tohfatul-Hashmiya'
Duas For getting Pregnant /conceiving Child
-Shaikh Bahai ( mentions 900 women benefitted) :write each of the alphabets( seperately) of Sura Raad ayat 31 on a paper & keep as tawiz/envelope on body of the wife ( video)
-If the wife does not give birth to a child within reasonable time both the husband and wife should recite surah al Fajr (chapter 89) 3 or 7 times a day
-Recite surah al Muzzammil (chapter 73) 11 times and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on some white sugar and give it to the wife to eat, if there is no birth of a child within reasonable time, and it is feared that she is incapable of producing children OR The wife should fast and at the time of breaking the fast should drink a glass of milk on which surah al Muzzammil ahs been recited 77 times as described above.
DU-A'A 221 If there is no birth of a child within reasonable time recite the following portion of verse 89 of Sura Anbiya 3 times after every obligatory salat.
DU-A'A 222 If there is no both of a child for a very long period recite the following portion of verse 38 of Ali Imran as many times as possible.
DU-A'A 223 If there is no birth of a child for a very long time the husband should pray a 2 rakat salat after Jummu-ah prayers and in rukus and sajdahs (of both the rakats) recite the following prayer.
allaahumma bismika istah'laltuhaa wa fee amaanatika akhad'tuhaa fa-in qaz'ayta fee rah'imihaa waladan faj-a'lhoo ghulaaman mubakaran d'akiyaan wa laa taj-a'l lish shayt'aani feehi shirkan wa laa nas'eebaa
O my Allah, in Your name I have lawfully taken her (as my wife) and I have appropriated and treated her (as) Your bounty entrusted to me, so if You decide to put a child in her womb, please make (this child) submissive, blessed, intelligent and do not let Shaytan be one of the two therein and let him not plant (himself with the child).
DU-A'A 224 Carry out the following a'mal taught by Imam Muhammad bin Ali al Baqir to have a child.
SUBH'AANALLAAH 70 times
Glory be to Allah. (70 times)
ASTAGHFIRULLAAH 10 times
I seek forgiveness from Allah. (10 times)
SUBH'AANALLAAH 9 times
Glory be to Allah. (9 times)
DU-A'A 225 If there is no birth of a child for a long time take two boiled eggs (chicken) take off the cover and write with saffron verse 47 of adh Dhariyat on one egg and give to the wife to eat; then write with saffron verse 48 of ad Dhariyat on the other egg and give it to the husband to eat. Do this for 40 consecutive days.
wal arz'a farshnaaha fani-mal maahidoon
We spread the earth (like a carpet) – an excellent spreader (We are).
DU-A'A 226 If it appears that the wife is incapable of producing a child write the following verses (Al Muminun: 12, 13, 14) on 7 leaves of sweet basil (an aromatic labiate plant) separately, and give one leaf a day to the wife to eat with a glass of cow's milk each time.
DU-A'A 227 If it appears that the wife is incapable of producing a child, write the following portion of verse 31 of ar Rad with saffron and rose water on the hide of a deer, and the wife should wear it as a ta'wid around her neck.
DU-A'A 228 It it appears that the wife is incapable of producing child, recite the following dua'a on 11 almonds separately and give them to the wife to eat one a day for 11 consecutive days.
DU-A'A 229 If there is no birth of a child within reasonable time, pray a two rakat salat and after that write the following verses (Ali Imran: 38 and Furqan: 74) with saffron on two separate sheets of paper and tie one of them as ta'wid on the right arm of the wife and tie other on the right arm of the husband.
(i) ali imran : 38 -
(ii) Furqan : 74 -
DU-A'A 230 If there is no birth of a child within a reasonable time, fast for there three consecutive days and recite verse 74 of Furqan (see du-a'a 229(ii) 21 times before going to sleep.
DU-A'A 231 If it appears that the wife is incapable of producing a child write the following (Arabic text) as directed on a sheet of paper and bind it as a tawid on the right arm of the wife.
HUWA - 9 times,
ALLAAHU - 9 times,
H'AYY - 9 times,
QAYYOOM - 9 times
wa s'allallaahu a'laa muhammadin wa aali muh'ammad Send blessings on Muhammad and on the children of Muhammad.
DU-A'A 232 According to Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq for the birth of a child, if there is none, engrave verse 89 of Anbiya (see du-a'a 221) on a turquois and wear it as a ring and also recite it regularly as Qunoot in all prayers.
DU-A'A 233 If it appears that the wife is incapable of producing a child, write surah Ali Imran with the solution of saffron and rose water on the hide of a deer or sheet, wrap it with strong cloth and put it as a tawid around the neck of the wife.
DU-A'A 234 It is reported that Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib advised one of his companions to call ad'an (summoning to prayers) in clear voice at home regularly if he want that Allah may bless him with sufficient children.
Duas for Childbirth and Newborn from Book Tohfatul Hashmiya
Supplication 1 TH for getting a child
Imaam Ja'far Sadiq (A.S.) said that if a woman is being late in conception for a child, she should recite this Duaa:
واُناساً اٰنسُ بهم مِنَ الوٓحْشٓتِيْ
So (please) grant me an honest son and daughter,
O Allah do not keep me alone while You are the best of the inheritors. I am alone and terrified due to the loneliness. This worry has reduced my thankfulness to You. Give me true peace in the form of a boy or a girl so that by becoming attached to him or her my terror is removed and through which my solitude ends and that I may be thankful to You for the completion of this bounty. O the Bestower, O Mighty! After that bestow me such Tawfeeq that I am thankful for every peace. So that by this I obtain Your pleasure for my truthfulness, thankfulness and fulfillment of oaths.[1]
Another supplication 2 TH for getting a child
It is narrated from Abi Abdullah (a.s.): One who desires that his wife become pregnant then he should recite two units (rakats) of Prayer after Friday prayer and in the prayer he should prolong the bowings and prostrations. Then he should recite:
Imam Zainul Abideen (a.s.) advised some of his companions to recite the following for getting a child:
It is narrated from Abi Abdullah (a.s.) that he said: A man came to him and said: O son of Allah’s messenger, I have eight daughters one after another but no son. So please pray to Allah, the Exalted and the Mighty, that He bestows me a son.
As-Sadiq (a.s.) said: Before you have physical relations with your wife put your right hand on the right of her navel and read the Surah “Inna Anzalnahu fee Lailatul Qadr” (Surah Qadr) seven times. Then have sexual intimacy with your wife; and you would obtain pleasing results. (She would become pregnant) When the pregnancy becomes apparent, when it is night put your right hand on the right side of the navel and recite Surah Qadr seven times.
The man said: I did thus and I got seven boys one after other and others also did it similarly and they were also bestowed male children.[4]
From Tibbul Aaimma from Sulaiman Al-Jawzi from Shaykh Madayani from Zurarah from Abi Ja’far (a.s.) that he said: I was in the group of Hisham bin Abdul Malik and I was issueless till I was suffocating, till the time he had a servant and a lot of wealth but no children. So we came to Abu Ja’far (a.s.) who said: Has Hisham sent you to me? Let me teach you a supplication so that you get a child.
He said: Yes, then he went to Hisham and his need was fulfilled. When he became free, the servant said to him: May I be sacrificed for you, the supplication that you have said, would you teach it to me?
He said: Yes, so recite everyday in the morning and at night: Subh’aan Allaah (Glory be to Allah) 70 times and seek Allah’s forgiveness ten times, and praise Him 9 times and end it the tenth time with seeking forgiveness, according to the words of Allah:
Then the servant said that he got many children and after that he brought gifts for Abu Ja’far and Abi Abdullah (a.s.): Sulaiman said: Then I recited it while I had married my uncle’s daughter and was as yet childless. I taught it to my wife and she got a child. And the woman claimed that whenever she wanted to become pregnant she could do so by this; and she taught it to other issueless people and subsequently they got many children.[6]
Supplication 3 for getting a child
It is narrated regarding Ali bin Husain (a.s.) that he said to some of his companions to recite the following for getting a child:
Recite it 70 times. Then those who recited this supplication much, Allah gave them what they desired from wealth and children and the good of the world and the Hereafter. For Allah has said:
It is narrated from Sulaiman bin Ja’far al-Jufi from Abu Ja’far, the first, Muhammad al-Baqir bin Ali bin al-Husain bin Ali (a.s.) that a man complained to him of lack of children from bondmaids and free women, but it was not granted to him and he was now sixty years old. He (al-Baqir) said: For three days after your obligatory evening prayer (Isha) and after morning prayers, recite:
سُبْحَانَ اللهِ subhaanal laah Glory be to Allah seventy times:
اَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ astaghferul laah seventy times;
and end it with the statement of Allah, the Mighty and Sublime:
Then establish physical relations with your wife on the third night and you will be blessed, Allah willing, with a healthy boy. He (the man) said: I did that and the year was not over that I was blessed with a child.[10]
It is mentioned in the manuscript of Shaykh Bahai (q.s.) that for a woman who is barren, someone who is Mahram for her, may write on the right side of her belly the verses mentioned below. It is of proven effect and 900 women have found it effective. Before it is done take a black fat young goat , which is defectless and not less than six months old. It should be slaughtered at a place with a ceiling (not under the open sky) and feed the cooked meat to 40 believers. Then she will get children, by the help of Allah, and the grace of these verses. The letters of the following verses should be written separately:
Other PDF duas for getting a child links :-
Dua's to request ALLAH for a child [dua 1]
Dua's to request ALLAH for a child [dua 2]
Dua to help prevent misfortune and to help protect against evil eye...
Dua to request ALLAH for an obedient child
Dua to request ALLAH for a pious child
Duas for Pregnancy - Safety - Delivery- Post Delivery
Duas for safety of child/mother-Prevent miscarriageDuas for ease in delivery
Duas for increase in milk
Duas for stopping menses
Duas for sleep of child
Heavenly path book Pregnancy
Exceptional Mother article with monthwise duas pdf
Pregnancy Chart pdf duas month by month
Duas for Safety of child/mother -Prevent miscarriage
Dua's for a pregnant women pdf
DU-A'A 235
write verses 91 to 93 of Anbiya on a piece of paper and wear as a tawid for 40 days from the day of pregnancy, then remove it, and wear it again in the 9th month and after the birth tie it to the child.
inna haad'ihee ummatukum ummataw waah'idataw wa anaa rabbukum fa'-budoon
wa taqat't'a -o'oo amrahum baynahum kullun ilaynaa raaji-o'on
Verily, this is your group, one group, and I am your Lord, therefore, worship Me,
But they have rent asunder their (this) affair among themselves (into sects). All shall return to Us.
DU-A'A 236
For the safety of child and mother during pregnancy and no miscarriage, write verse 1 of all Hajj with saffron and tie it to the mother, preferably around her belly or abdomen. O people, fear your Lord. Verily, the quake of the hour is a terrible thing. yaaa ayyuhan naasut-taqoo rabbakum inna zalzalatas saa-a'ti shay-un a'z'eem
DU-A'A 237
For the safety of child and mother during pregnancy, and no miscarriage, write a portion of verse 64 of Yusuf and verse 8 of ar Rad with saffron and bind it as a tawid around the belly or abdomen of the mother.
allaahu ya-lamu maa tah'milu kullu unthaa wa maa tagheez'ul arh'aamu wa maa tazdaad wa kullu shay-in i'ndahoo bimiqdaar
Allah knows what every female bears, and that which the wombs fall short (of completion) and that which they exceed. And every thing with Him is measured.
DU-A'A 238
For the safety of child and mother during pregnancy, write with saffron surah al Bayyinah (chapter 98) wash it with pure water and give it to the mother to drink.
DU-A'A 239
To remain safe from the danger of miscarriage or premature birth, take a cotton thread equal to mother's height, dye it in saffron and make 9 knots, then recite verses 127 and 128 of an Nahl on each knot separately and blow breath on it.
For Preventing miscarriage
From the book, Ighthatul Mazloom fi Kashfe Asrarul Ulum: Write for her in an amulet and make her wear it:
Also write:
Say the following three times,
For preventing miscarriage 2
Write the following in an amulet and make the woman wear it to prevent miscarriage of her fetus: Surah Fatiha and this:
At time of Child Birth
Imam Ali(as) Supplication 44 Sahifa Alavia at the Time of Childbirth
DU-A'A 240
Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq advised the followers of Muhammad and Aali Muhammad to recite the following du-a'a at the time of birth of a child for a safe and smooth delivery.
waah'idean wah'shan fayaqs'uru shukree a'n tafakkuree bal hab lee a'aqibatan s'idqan d'ukooran wa inaathan aanis bihim minal wah'shati waskun ilayhim minal wah'dati wa ashkuruka i'nda tamaamin ni'mati yaa wahhaabu wa yaa a'z'eemu wa yaa mu'a'z'z'im thumma a't'inee fee kulli a'afiyatin shukran h'attaa tablughanee minhaa riz'waanaka fee s'idqil h'adeethi wa adaa-il amaanati wa wafaa-im bil a'hd
DU-A'A 241
According to Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq if it is stipulated that the childbirth may not be easy, write the following portions of verses 35 of al Ahqaf, 46 of an Nazi-a't and 35 of Ali Imran on the hide of a deer and tie it as a tawid around the woman's right thigh.
ka-annahum yawma yarawnahaa lam yalabathooo illaa a'shiyyatan aw z'uh'aahaa
id qaalatim-ra-atu i'mraana rabbi innee nad'artu laka maa fee bat'nee muh'arraran
On the day they see it, it will seem as if they had not tarried (in their graves) but a (single) evening, or the following morning.
When (Hannah) the wife of Imran said: “My Lord, verily I have vowed to You that whatever is in my womb to be (exclusively) dedicated (to Your service).
DU-A'A 242
It is written in Tibb al A-immah that Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq said that write verse 30 of Anbiya and verses 37 to 44 and 51 of Ya sin on one side of a piece of paper and verse 35 of Ahqaf and verse 46 of Nazi-at on the other side, wrap a strip of paper lightly around it, and then fasten it on the middle of a woman who has entered her month of delivery. When the child is born do not leave it on for an instant.
wash shaamsu taajree limustaqarril lahaa d'aalika taqdeerul a'zeezil a'leem wal qamara qaddarnaahu manaazila h'attaa a'ada kal-u'rjoonil qadeem lash shamsu yambaghee lahaaa an tudrikal qamara wa lal laylu saabiqun nahaar wa kullun fee falakiy yasbah'oon
wa aayatul lahum annha h'amalnaa d'urriyyatahum fil fulkil mashh'oon wa khalaqna lahum mim mithlihee maa yarkaboon.
wa innashaa nughriqhum falaa s'areekha lahum wa laa hum yunqad'oon
illaa rah'matam minnaa wa mataa-a'n ilaa h'een wa nufikha fis' s'oori fa-id'aa hum minal ajdaathi ilaa rabbihum yansiloon
There is a sign in the night for them. We draw off the day from it, an lo! They are in darkness.
The sun travels to an appointed place. This is the decree of the mighty, the all-knowing (Lord).
And the moon-We have determined stages for it till it returns like the old (dried) branch of a palm-tree.
It is not permitted to the sun that it should overtake the moon, nor can the night outsrip the day; each in an orbit, they float. A sign unto them is that We bear their offspring in the laden ark; And We have created for them of the like thereof whereon they ride.
If We will, We can drown them, then there shall be no one to help them, nor shall they be rescued.
Save by way of mercy from Us (to enable them) to enjoy themselves for a while. When the trumpet is blown, then lo! From their graves unto their Lord they shall be hastening.
Dua'a 243
Imam Ali ibn abi Talib advised the followers of Muhammad and Aali Muhammad to write the following du-a'a with saffron on a piece of paper and tie it to the right arm or the neck of the mother as a ta'wid for as safe childbirth.
Dua'a 244
It is written in Tibb al A-immah that Imam Muhammad bin Ali al Baqir advised one of his companions, whose wife was in on the threshold of death from the severity of labour pains, to recite over her verses 23 to 25 of Maryam.
fanaadaaha min tah'tihaaa allaa tah'zanee qad ja-a'la rabbuki tah'taki sariyyaa
wa huzzeee ilayki bijid -in nakhlati tusaaqit a'layki rut'aban janiyya
wallaahu akhrajakum mim but'ooni ummahaatikum laa ta'-lamoona shay-aw wa ja-a'la lakumus sam-a'wal abs'aara wal af-idata la-a'llakum tashkuroon
Then (a voice) called her from beneath her: “Do not grieve; verily your Lord has made a river flow right below you.
Shake the trunk of the palm-tree towards yourself, it will drop fresh and ripe dates on you.
O my Lord, do not leave me alone (childless), though You are the best of inheritors.
Dua'a 245
It is written in T'ibb al A-immah that Imam Ali ibn Talib said that for a woman experiencing difficulty in childbirth write verses 5 and 6 of Inshirah 7 times and verses 1 and 2 of al Hajj once on the hide of a deer and fasten it to her groin.
yaaa ayyuhan naasut-taqoo rabbakum inna zalzalatas saa-a'ti shay-un a'z'eem
yawma tarawnahaa tad'halu kullu murz'i -a tin a'mmaaa arz'a-at wa taz'a-u kullu d'aati h'amlin h'amlahaa wa taran-naasa sukaaraa wa maa hum bisukaara wa laakinna a'd'aaballaahi shadee
O people, fear your Lord. Verily, the quake of the hour is a terrible thing! The day you shall behold it, every suckling mother shall forsake her suckling, and every pregnant female shall drop her load. Your shall behold the people (as) drunken, yet they will not be drunken, but the wrath of Allah will be terrible.
Dua'a 246
It is written in Tibb al A-immah that Imam Muhammad bin Ali al Baqir said that: if a woman experiences difficulty during childbirth, write verse 111 of Yusuf, verse 35 of Ajwaf and verse 46 of Nazi-at in a vessel cleaned with musk and saffron then wash it with spring water and give her some water to drink and spring the rest over her body and genitals.
Supplication for difficulty in childbirth
For a woman having difficulty in childbirth the following supplication should be recited on a bowl full of water, three times, and she must drink from it and it should also be sprinkled between her shoulders and chest. She will deliver by the leave of Allah. The supplication is as follows:
Another supplication for difficulty in childbirth
It is narrated from as-Sadiq (a.s.): Write for the woman who is having difficulty in childbirth – on a skin or paper:
For ease in childbirth
It is narrated from Jabir bin Yazid Jufi that a man came to Muhammad bin Ali al-Baqir (a.s.) and said: O son of the Messenger of Allah, help me! He (al-Baqir) said: What is it? He replied: My wife is on the threshold of death from the severity of labor pains. He said: ‘Go and read over her’:
When the woman is in Labor
It is narrated from Abi Abdullah (a.s.) that he said: When the woman is in labor, write for her on a skin:
Then sew it with a thread and tie it on her right thigh. When she has given birth, remove it[24].[25]
From Jabir that he said: Go and recite the following on her:
And Allah has brought you forth from the wombs of your mothers- you did not know anything-and He gave you hearing and sight and hearts that you may give thanks.[27]
It is narrated from Abi Ja’far (a.s.) that he said: If a woman experiences difficulty during childbirth, write these verses for her in a clean vessel with musk and saffron. Then wash it out with well-water and have the woman drink from it and sprinkle her belly and genitals. She will give birth at once:
From as-Sadiq (a.s.) that he said: Write these verses on a paper for the pregnant woman when she has entered her month (for delivery). She will not be afflicted with labor pains or difficulty at childbirth. Wrap a strip (of paper) lightly around the paper and do not tie it. Write:
Write these verses on the back of the paper:
For difficulty in childbirth
Write on a paper after Bismillah (In the name of Allah):
For difficulty in childbirth
From Jabir that he said: A man came to Aba Ja’far (a.s.) and said: O Son of Allah’s Messenger, help me. He (Abu Ja’far) said: What is the problem? He replied: My wife is on the verge of death due to the severity of labor pains.
He said: Go and read upon her:
For increase in breast milk
Breast feeding rulings
Etiquettes of Breast feeding
Dua to help increase breast milk for a mother -pdf
Write on three pieces of barley bread for three days and give one piece to the woman daily on an empty stomach.
For lack of Breast milk 2
Write this supplication and mix it in water then ask her to drink it:
Dua'a 259
To increase milk of the mother-3 write surah al Hijr (chapter 15) or surah Ya Sin (chapter 36) with solution of saffron and rose water, wash it with pure water and give it to the mother to drink. Or
Write verse 21 of al Muminun as described above and give it to the mother to drink.
Dua'a 260
To increase milk of the mother 4:
(i) write verses 8 and 9 of ar Rad on a piece of paper and bind it as a ta'wid on the right arm of the mother.
(ii) and write them again with saffron on a china plate, wash it with pure water and give it to the mother to drink.
For purification from Menses
If a woman is at one of the sanctified places and she is having menses and it is not possible for her to stay there without being purified. She should supplicate as follows and she would be purified if Allah wills, and the supplication is as follows. As-Sadiq (a.s.) said: Perform the ritual bath (Ghusl), come to the door and say:
Another supplication for stopping menses
Write these letters on the rear hem of the garment of the woman in menses provided that cloth is ritually pure, and her bleeding will cease by the leave of Allah, the Exalted. The letters are as follows:
For Nifas (Bleeding after delivery)
Ibne Arabi has mentioned that the following should be written on a new and pure vessel and wash with it her face and give her to drink from it:
The Prayer of a Mother for a Son's cure
Ali bin Mihran bin al-Walid al-Askari narrated from Muhammad bin Salim from al-Arqat- he was the son of the sister of Abu Abdillah as-Sadiq (a.s.)- who said: I was very ill and my mother sent for my maternal uncle. He came while my mother was outside the door of the house – and she was Umme Salama bin Muhammad bin Ali – saying: Alas, my boy! My uncle saw her and said: Gather your dress around you and go to the roof of the house. Then remove your veil so that you expose your hair to the sky and say:
Supplication for sleep of the child
Write on a paper and make the child wear it around the neck:
Write and make the child wear it:
For removing the panic and fear of the child
Recite the Surah Zilzal (Surah: 99)
Then recite these verses:
Refrences of verses
[1] Hilyatul Muttaqeen, Ash-Shaykh al-Majlisi, p. 197
[2] Hilyatul Muttaqeen, Ash-Shaykh al-Majlisi, p. 197
[3] Hilyatul Muttaqeen, Ash-Shaykh al-Majlisi, p. 200
[4] Hilyatul Muttaqeen, Ash-Shaykh al-Majlisi, p. 200
[5] Surah Nuh 71:10-12
[6] Makaaremul Akhlaaq, Ash-Shaykh Tabarsi, p. 224
[7] Tibbul Aaimmah, As-Sayyid Shubbar, p. 419
[8] Surah Nuh 71:10-12
[9] Surah Nuh 71:10-12
[10] Mujarribat al-Imamiya, p. 141
[11] Surah Ra’ad 13:31
[12] Tibbul Aaimmah, As-Sayyid Shubbar, p. 129
[13] Tibbul Aaimmah, As-Sayyid Shubbar, p. 419
[14] Makaaremul Akhlaaq, Ash-Shaykh Tabarsi, p. 409
[15] Surah Maryam 19:23-25
[16] Surah Nahl 16:78
[17] Hilyatul Muttaqeen, Ash-Shaykh al-Majlisi, p. 204
[18] Surah Ahqaaf 46:35
[19] Surah Naziyat 79:46
[20] Hilyatul Muttaqeen, Ash-Shaykh al-Majlisi, p. 205
[21] Surah Ahqaaf 46:35
[22] Surah Naziyat 79:46
[23] Surah Aale Imran 3:35
[24] Surah Maryam 19:23-25
[25] Hilyatul Muttaqeen, Ash-Shaykh al-Majlisi
[26] Surah Maryam 19:23-25
[27] Surah Nahl 16:78
[28] Surah Naziyat 79:46
[29] Surah Ahqaf 46:35
[30] Surah Yusuf 12:111
[31] Surah Anbiya 21:30
[32] Surah Yasin 36:37-44
[33] Surah Yasin 36:51
[34] Surah Ahqaf 46:35
[35] Behaarul Anwaar, Vol. 101, p. 118
[36] Surah Naziyat 79:46
[37] Surah Aale Imran 3:35
[38] Hadaiq al-Uns, As-Sayyid Zanjani, p. 223
[39] Hadaiq al-Uns, p. 213
[40] Tibbul Aaimmah, As-Sayyid Shubbar, p. 428
[41] Surah Mominoon 23:12-14
[42] Surah Baqarah 2:60
[43] Surah Qamar 54:12
[44] Surah Nuh 71:10-11
[45] Masabih al-Jinaan, As-Sayyid Abbas al-Husaini al-Kashani, p. 752
[46] Tibbul Aaimmah, Abdullah Shubbar, p. 419
[47] Dairatul Ma’rif ash-Shia, Vol. 9, p. 497, Quoted from Mujarribat al-Imamiya, p. 155
[48] Mafaateehul Jenaan, Vol. 1, Quoted from Ad-Durr al-Maknoon, Mujarribat al-Imamiya, p. 155
[49] Tibbul Aaimmah, Abdullah Shubbar, p. 122
[50] Tibbul Aaimmah, p. 422
[51] Surah Anfal 8:66
[52] Surah Nisa 4:28
[53] Surah Taha 20:111
[54] Surah Anbiya 21:69
[55] Surah Talaaq 65:3
Rites At The Birth of a Child
Aqiqa / CircumscisionOn the seventh day after the birth of a child Aqīq is performed. Family friends and other Muslim should be invited. ‘Aqīq consists of giving a name to the baby, shaving its hair, and offering a sacrifice. It is recommended that the new-born baby should be given either a compound name containing one of the most beautiful names of God (e.g. ‘Abd al-Hamīd), or the name of one of the fourteen Ma’sūms or another holy figure; or that a name should be found from the Qur’ān. In the latter case, the Qur’ān is opened with the solemn intention of seeking God’s guidance and blessing and saying
bi-’smi ’llāhi r-rahmān r-rahīm, and then a name derived from one of the Arabic roots found on that page is chosen.
The following is then recited (first that for a boy, then for a girl):
Ibne …. (name of the father) lahmu-hābi-lahmi-hi wa-damu-hābi-dami-hi wa-‘azmu-hābi-‘azmi-hi wa-sha’ru-hā bisha’ri-hi wa-jildu-hābi-jildi-h. Allāhumma’j΄al-hā waqā’an li-āli Muhammadin ‘alay-hi wa-āli-hi s-salām.
In the Name of God and through God, this is the ‘aqīqa of…..(name of the girl), daughter of …. (name of the father): its flesh for her flesh, its blood for her blood, its bones for her bones, its hair for her hair, its skin for her skin. O God, let it be a protection of the family of Muhammad, peace be upon him and his family.
The hair of the baby s shaved. It is recommended to weigh the cut hair in silver, and give its value to the poor or to orphans as alms. A goat, a sheep or other such animal should be sacrificed either after shaving the hair or at the same time, but not before. It is recommended to read the following prayer at the time when the animal is about to be slaughtered:
Wa-bi dhālika umirtu wa-anā mina l-muslimīna allāhumma min-ka wa-la-kabi-’smi’llāhi wa-’llāhu akabar.
Allāhumma salli ‘alā Muhammadin wa-āli Muhammadin wa-taqabbal min…..
(name of child) ibni (for a boy) / binti (for a girl)
…. (name of father)
O gathering, I am free from what you associate; I turn my face to He who split the heavens and the earth, a true believer and a Muslim, and not one of the polytheists. My prayer, my piety, my living, and my dying are for God, the Lord of the Words. O God, from You and to You, in the Name of God; God is greater.
O God, bless Muhammad, and accept [this] from … (name of the child).
Son / daughter of …… (name of the father).
After the sacrifice, the greater part of the meat should be distributed among the poor and needy. It may also be served to the guests, but it is disapproved for the parents of the baby and their dependents to eat it.
If, due to any reason, ‘aqīq is not performed on the seventh day after the birth of the child, it may be offered later on, at any time, even by the child itself after attaining puberty.
This rite is not obligatory but recommended, and there are many Traditions which emphasize it.
Dua'a 252
According to Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq 9as)recite either of the following du'a'a at the time of slaughtering the animal for aqiqah (The ceremony of shaving the hair of an infant on the sixth day after birth)
If the child is a female say words in brackets :
بِسْمِ اللهِ وَ بِاللهِ وَ الْحَمْدُ لِله وَاللهُ اَكْبَرُ اِيْمَانًا بِاللهِ وَثَنَاءً عَلىَ رَسُولِ اللهِ صلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَالْعَصْمَةُ لِاَمْرِهِ وَالشُّكْرُ لِرِزْقِهِ و الْمَعْرِفَةُ بِفَضْلِهِ عَلَيْنَا اَهْلَ الْبَيْتِ-
اَلَّلهُمَّ اِنَّكَ وَهَبْتَ لَنَا ذَكَرًا وَ اَنْتَ اَعْلَمَ بِمَا وَهَبْتَ وَمِنْكَ مَا اَعْطَيْتَ وَكُلَّمَا صَنَعْتَ فَتَقَبَّلْهُ مِنَّا عَلَى سُنَّتِكَ وَسُنَّةِ نَبِيّكَ وَرسُوْلِكَ صَلَّی اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَاخْسَعْ عَنَّا الشَّيْطَانَ الرَّجِيْمَ لَكَ سَفَكْتُ ادِِّمآءَ لاَ شَرِيْكَ لَكَ اَلَّلهُمَّ وَالْحَمْدُ للهِ رَبِِّ الْعَلَمِيْنَ اَلَّلهُمَّ لَحْمُهَا بِلَحْمِهِ وَدَمُهَا بِدَمِهِ وَعَظْمُهَا بِعَظْمِهِ وَشَعْرُهَا بِشَعْرِهِ وَجَلْدُهَا بِجَلْدِهِ اَلَّلهُمَّ اَجْعَلْهُ فِدَآءً-
bismillaahi wa billaahi walh'amdu lillaahi wallaahu akbar eemaanan billaahi wa thanaa-an a'laa rasoolillaahi s'allallaahu a'layhi wa aalihee wal a's'matu li-amrihee wash shukru lirizqihee wal ma-rifatu bifaz lihee a'laynaa ahlil bayti
allaahumma innka wahabta lanaa d'akaran wa anta a'-lamu bimaa wahabta wa minka maa a't'ayta wa kullamaa s'ana -ta fataqabbaalhu minaa a'laa sunnatika wa sunnati nabiyyika wa rasoolika s'allallaahu a'layhi wa aalihee wakh-sa a'nnash shayt'aanar rajeema laka safaktud dimaa-a laa shareeka laka allaahumma wal h'amdu lillaahi rabbil a'alameen allaahumma lah'muhaa bilah'mihee wa damuhaa bidamihee wa a'z'muhaa bi-a'z'mihee wa sha'ruhaa bisha - rihee wa jilduhaa bijildihee allaahummaj-a'lhu fidaa-an
In the name of Allah, by Allah, praise be to Allah, Allah is the greatest, faith is in Allah, thanks to the messenger of Allah (blessings of Allah be on him and on his children) for safeguarding His command, gratitude for His sustenance, and awareness of us Ahl ul Bayt (our merits) by His grace.
O Allah, verily You have given us a son. You alone know what You have given and what has been granted, and (You alone know everything about) whatever You create. So accept (our offering offered) in accordance with Your command and the traditions of Your prophet and messenger (blessings of Allah be on him and on his children), and keep away the accursed Shaytan from us. This blood is pouring out for Your sake only (a.s.) there is no partner to share (it) with You, O my Allah, praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. O my Allah, this meat (instead of) his meat, this blood (instead of) his blood, these bones (instead of) his bones., these hair (instead of) his hair, this skin (instead of) his skin (are offered to You), so O my Allah, accept this (sacrifice) instead of the sacrifice of (mention the name of the child.
After the birth of a baby, it is recommended that the Adhān Should be recited in its right ear ad the iqāma in its left ear. This act should be performed after the child is washed and wrapped in a cloth, or later, within a few days.
It is recommended that the suras al-Hāqqa (sura 69), al-Falaq (sura 113), and an-Nās (sura 114) should be written on a piece of paper and attached around the neck of the baby as an amulet against evil and harm.
CIRCUMCISION
The circumcision (khatn or khitan, or in many Islamic countries simply sunna) of a male child is an obligation on every Muslim before the child reaches puberty. If the parents fail to have this rite performed, it is the duty of every adult uncircumcised Muslim to be circumcised. Those who embrace Islam should also perform this rite if they are not ready circumcision is not mentioned in the Qur’an, but it is much emphasized in the Traditions, and the consensus of the ulema is that it is obligatory on all Muslims.
Circumcision should preferably be performed when the baby is only a few days old, or otherwise at any time before his puberty. In many countries it is normally carried out between the ages of three and seven, but it is recommended to perform this rite on the seventh day after the birth of the child. Facilities for circumcision are normally provided at hospitals.
In this rite also it is recommended to invite guests and family friends and arrange food for the poor. It is also recommended to recite the following prayer at the time of the circumcision:
Dua'a 251 According to Imam Jafar bin Muhammad as Sadiq(as) recite the following du-a'a at the time of circumcision.
Alternate Translation
O Allah, this (we do) in compliance with Your command and the traditions of Your prophet, Your blessings be on him and on his children, to obey You and Your prophet to fulfill Your will, intention, and to carry out the rules You have decided to make to be followed unconditionally according to which he has to experience the heat of ir0on in circumcision, and bleeding suitability of which You know better then us. O Allah, cleanse him of sins, let him live a long natural life, protect him from all dangers to his body, and let him never suffer the pangs of hunger and anguish of poverty, because You know and we do not.
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Write surah al Waqi-ah (chapter 56) with saffron and tie it as a ta'wid to keep the child safe from misfortune, accident or mischief.
Write surah al Balad (chapter 90) with saffron and tie it as a taw'id to keep the child safe from the evil of genie or an evil eye.
To keep safe the child from early untimely death the child or the mother should wear a ta'wid (Bismillaahir rah'maanir rah'eeem) written one hundred and sixty time on the hide of a deer, a sheep, or on a piece of paper.
To keep safe the child from early untimely death the father or the mother should recite surah al Muzzammil (chapter 73) 7 times and every time, should blow the breath through the palm of the right hand on a betal nut and put it around the neck of the child as a tawid.
Dua'a 253
To keep safe the child from teething troubles write surah al Qaf (chapter 50) with saffron, wash it with pure water, and then wash the mouth of the child with it.
Dua'a 254
To accustom the child to nourishment other than the mother's milk write verse 14 of Luqman on a piece of paper and put it around the neck of the child as a ta'wid. We have enjoined on man concerning his parents – his mother bears him in weakness upon weakness, weaning him in two years - :
Dua'a 255
If a child has developed the habit of eating things (earth etc) which he or she should not, write verse 53 and 54 of as Saba on a piece of paper and put it as a ta'wid around the neck of the child to stop the habit of eating harmful things.
Dua'a 256
If a child weeps and weeps, write verses 108 and 112 of surah Ta Ha on the hide of a deer and put it as a ta'wid around the neck of the child to stop the non stop weeping.
wa a'natil wujoohu lilh'ayyil qayyoom wa qad khaaba man h'amala z'ulmaa
wa may ya'mal minas s'aalih 'aati wa huwa moominun falaa yakhaafu z'ulmaw wa laa haz'maa
Allah faces shall be humble before the everliving, the self-subsisting, and whosoever bears a load of iniquity will certainly be disappointed. And whosoever does good deeds, and is a believer, shall not fear injustice, nor any curtailment (of what is his due).
Dua'a 257
As soon as a child begins to disobey recite surah Shu-ara (chapter 26) 7 times or recite surah Ahzab (chapter 33)once and every time blow breath towards the child. Inshallah, the child shall start to obey and follow the elders.
Dua'a 258
If a child, while growing up, shows signs of disobeying the elders, recite the following portion of verse 15 of Ahqaf 7 times after every wajib salat, keeping in mind the aggressive child.
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Dua's for Good Matrimonial Relationship
Contents :To create or develop love | To remove misunderstanding |To remove discord and separation| To create and develop love and affection | If Husband is displeased with wife |If there is discord after marriage | If husband is taking interest in another woman |To make a bad tempered and wicked husband gentle | Duas From Tohfatul Hashmiya
To create or develop love between man and wife
Dua'a 189 Recite Surah Yasin 7 times and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on 7 almonds separately and give them to your spouse for eating all of them.
Dua'a 190 BISMILLAHIR RAHMAN NIR RAHIM 786 times on a glass of clean (pure) water and give it to your spouse for drinking.
Dua'a 191 Recite Surah An-Nisa 7 times a day.
Dua'a 192 Surah al Quraysh (chapter 106) on roses and both of them should smell them.
Dua'a 193 Recite (AL WADOODU) 1000 times and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on some sweet eatables and both should eat it.
Dua'a 194 Recite Surah al Muzzammil (chapter 73) 41 times and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on some sweet eatables and give it to your spouse to eat.
Dua'a 197 Recite the following du-a'a (verse 31 of Aali Imran) 3 times and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on a glass of pure water and give it to your spouse to drink.
Dua'a 200 Recite verse 32 of Sad on some sweet eatables and give it to both of them to eat during a period of 7 days.
Dua'a 207 Recite verse 83 of Yasin on some sweet eatables and give it to both of them to eat. Inshallah very soon they will come very close to each other.
wa laa h'awla wa laa quwwata illaa billahil a'liyyil a'z'eem
There is no might nor strength with (any one) save Allah, the high, the great.
Dua'a 208 Recite verse 40 of Ahzab on some fragrant flowers or eatables and give it to your spouse to smell or eat.
Dua'a 209 As directed in Biharul Anwar, take an egg (hen) clean it and write verse 128 of al Bara-at on it with the name of your spouse. Enclose the egg in a pot with a cover and bury it under the earth where fire burns everyday. Inshallah the spouse will come very close to you. If there has been a separate, an immediate reconciliation will take place.
Dua'a 210 It is written in Biharul Anwar that in order to create love between man and wife write the names of Ashab al kahf (the people of the cave) and then the name of your spouse with her or his mother's or father's name and wear it as a ta'wid on the right arm. The names of seven sleepers (followers of Prophet Isa) in Christian books are as under : Constantine Dionysius John Malchus Martinian Maximiam Serapion According to Hafiz Farman Ali Sahib they were six and the seventh was a dog. Their names are given below : Kimsilmina Martunus Sarnivilus Ninivanus Tmlikha Wariwanus
Dua'a 216 To create love between man and wife (who is showing signs of indifference) (i) Write Surah as Zukhruf (chapter 43) on a plate of China Clay and wash it with pure water and give it to the wife to drink.
Or (ii) The aggrieved husband should recite Surah al Jumu-a'h (chapter 62) 5 times a day
Or (iii) Keep the written text of the said Surah on the body as a tawid
Or (iv) The aggrieved husband should recite Ayat al Kursi (see du-a'a 39 ) equal in number of the total of his and his wife's name as per the rule of abjad.
Or (v) He should wear the written text of Ayat ul Kursi as a tawid on his body.
To remove misunderstanding and discord and instead create love and understanding between man and wife
(1)Recite Surah Jumah (chapter 62) on Friday and invoke the Almighty Allah to fulfill your desire.
(2) Recite (AL MAANI-U) The Preventer as many times as possible.
(3)Recite the following portion of verse 54 of al Ma-idah on some sweet eatables and let both of them eat it.
To remove discord and separation between man and wife and to bring themselves in to harmony again
One of them should recite the following du'a on some fresh fragrant flowers with full concentration and send them to the other spouse for smelling them.
Say 11 times -
Then say 11 times :
allaahumma s'alli a'laa muh'ammadin wa aali muhammad.
wallahul musta-a'anu a'laa maa tas'ifoon yaa rafeequ yaa shafeequ najjinee min kulli z'eeqin
allahumma s'alli a'laa muh'ammadin wa aali muh'ammad
Then say - Allah is He whose help is to be sought against what you describe. O my helper. O my affectionate Lord, save me from every anguish.
O my Allah, send blessings on Muhammad and on the progeny of Muhammad.
Recite the following verses 29 and 30 of surah Yusuf on some sweet eatables and let both the husband and wife eat them to remove discord that has made their life miserable.
According to Biharul Anwar to create love and understanding between husband and wife, if they are drifting from each other, recite a 2 rakat salat after Isha, at any time during the night, on Monday. In each rakat, after the recitation of al Fatihah, recite surah ad Duha (chapter 93) 10 times, and after the salam recite the following dua 25 times.
allaahumma ah'abbanee ilaa qalbi
To create and develop love and affection between man and wife
Dua'a 203
O my Allah, send blessings on Muhammad and on the children of Muhammad
H'aa meem ayn seen qaaf
Ya Sin. By the Quran, the book of wisdom.
Nun. By the pen and by what they write.
You alone we worship and from You alone we seek help.
O my Allah, send blessings on Muhammad and on the children of Muhammad.
allaahumma s'alli a'laa muh'ammadin wa aali muh'ammad
h'aa meem ayn seen qaaf
yaa seen wal quraanilh'akeem
noon wal qalami wa maa yast'uroon iyyaaka na-budu wa iyyaaka nasta-een
s'allallaahu a'laa khayri khalqihee muh'ammadin wa aalihee ajma-e'en lih'ubbi (name of husband with his mother) a'laa h'ubbi (name of wife with her mother)
allahumma s'alli a'laa muh'ammadin wa aali muh'ammad.
(i) Recite 14 times :
(iv)Nun. By the pen and by what they write. Noon Wal Qalami Wa Maa Yast'uroon
(v)You alone we worship and from You alone we seek help. Iyyaaka na'-Budu wa iyyaaka nasta-e'en
(vi) Say : Blessings of Allah be on Muhammad and on his children, all of whom are the best creation among His all creations; for the purpose of (creation) love (in the heart of (name of husband with his mother) for (name the wife with her mother).
(vii) Recite 14 times :
Recite the following verse 96 of Maryam on some sweet eatables and give it to both of them to eat. Inshallah they will come close to each other very soon.
Recite following verses (last portion of 62 and 63 of Anfal) on some sweet eatables and give it to both of them to eat. Inshallah there will be a positive result very soon.
wa allafa bayna quloobihim law anfaqta maa fil arz'i jamee-am maaa allafta bayna quloobihim wa laakinnallaaha allafa baynahum innahoo a'zeezun h'akeem
According to Biharul Anwar to create and develop love between man and wife, after marriage, if there is discord and misunderstanding, write verses 9 to 14 of Az Zukhruf on 4 pages and bury these 4 pages separately in four corners of the house (One page in every corner)
allad'ee ja-a'la lakumul arz'a mahdaw wa ja-a'la laaakum feehaa subulal la-a'llakum tahtadoon
wallad'ee nazzala minas samaaa-i maaa-am biqadar fa-ansharnaa bihee baldatam maytaa kad'aalika tukhrajoon
wallad'ee khalqal azwaaja kullahaa waa ja-a'la lakum minal fulki wal an-a'ami maa tarkaboon litastawoo aaaaa'laa z'uhoorihee thumma tad'kuroo ni-mata rabbikum id'as - tawaytum a'layhi wa taqooloo subh'aanal lad'ee sakhkhara lanaa haad'aa subh'aanal lad'ee sakhkhara lanaa haad'aa wa maa kunnaa lahoo muqrineen wa inaaa ilaa rabbinaa lamunqaliboon
They will certainly say: ‘The all-mighty, the all-knowing created them.’
He who made the earth for you as a cradle, and laid out paths upon it for you so that you may be rightly guided.
Who sends down water from the heaven in due measure; then We raise to life with it a land which was dead-so shall We bring you forth (from your graves on the day of resurrection).
He who created pairs of every thing and made for you ships and cattle on which you ride,
So that (when) you sit firm and square on their backs, and remember the bounty of your Lord, and when so seated, you may say: “Glory be to Him who subjected these to us, because we were not able to do so ourselves.
Verily we shall return to our Lord.”
It is written in Biharul Anwar that in order to create love between man and wife write verse 63 of al Anfal and verse 7 of al Mumtahinah with saffron on a piece of paper after praying a 2 rakat salat on Sunday wash it with pure water and both of them should drink it for 7 days.
It may be that Allah will create friendship between you and those of them whom you holed as enemies. Allah is all-powerful. Allah is oft-forgiving, ever-merciful.
If the husband is displeased with the wife, she should recite the following verse 165 of al Baqarah on some sweat eatables and give it to him to eat. Inshaallah soon there will be positive result.
Recite 30 times verse 129 of al Bara-at during the Friday night, keeping in mind the name of the displeased spouse. Inshallah, there will be harmony between the two spouses again. But if they turn away, say:
If there is discord after marriage between man and wife, in order to create love, it is written in Biharul Anwar, to write verses 1 and 2 of Ad Dahr with saffron and wash it with rose water and both of them should drink it.
Verily We created man from a drop of mingled fluid (life-germ) in order to test and try him; so We gave him hearing and sight.
According to Biharul Anwar, if husband is taking interest in another woman, gambling and drinking etc.,etc., the wife should recite a 2 rakat salat and in each rakat after reciting surah al Fatihah, Recite :
(i) verse 7 of al Mumtahinah
(ii) say 70 times
(iii) Then recite the following du-a'a 27 times.
To make a bad tempered and wicked husband gentle recite the following du-a'a on some sweet eatables and give it to him to eat.
TO CREATE LOVE BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE - PET book extracts
1 To create or develop love between husband and wife recite surah Ya Sin 7 times and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on 7 almonds separately and give them to your spouse of eating all of them.
2 To create or develop love between husband and wife recite BISMILLAAHIR RAHMAN NIR RAHIM 786 times on a glass of clean (pure) water and give it to your spouse for drinking.
3 To remove misunderstanding and discord and instead create love and understanding between husband and wife recite surah al Jumu-ah (chapter 62) on Friday and invoke the almighty Allah to fulfill your desire.
4 To create or develop love between husband and wife recite surah al Quraysh (chapter 106) on roses and both of them should smell them.
5 To remove misunderstanding and discord and instead create love and understanding between husband and wife recite as many times as possible. “AL MAANI-U” (the preventer)
6 To create or develop love and understanding between husband and wife recite 1000 times : “AL WADOODU” [ the affectionate ] and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on some sweet eatables and both should eat it.
7 To create or develop love between husband and wife recite surah al Muzzammil (chapter 73) 41 times and every time blow breath through the palm of the right hand on some sweet eatables and give it to your spouse to eat.
8 To remove discord and separation between husband and wife and to bring themselves in to harmony again one of them should recite the following dua on some fresh fragrant flowers with full concentration and send them to the other spouse for smelling them. Say 11 times salawat: “ ALLAAHUMMA S’ALLI A’LAA MUH’AMMADIN WA AALI MUH’AMMAD” [ O my Allah, send blessings on Muhammad and on the progency of Muhammed. ]
Then say :
Then say 11 times salawat :
9 If the husband is displeased with the wife, she should recite the following verse 165 of al Baarah on some sweat eatables and give it to him to eat. Inshallah soon there will be a positive result.
10 According to Bihar ul Anwar, if husband is taking interest in another woman, gambling and drinking etcetera, the wife should recite a 2 rak-at salat and in each rak-at after reciting surah al Fatihah, recite :
i) Verse 7 of al Mumtahinah
ii) Say 70 times :
iii) Then recite the following dua’a 27 times:
From Book Tohfatul Hashmiya
Love and attachment between spouses
Write and bury it in the four corners of the house, on four pieces of paper for reconciliation between spouses:
When you are reciting them, for each recitation make one knot in the threads till there are seven knots and give it to one of them to carry it. The two of them would be reconciled by the leave of Allah. (It is a proven remedy) quoted from handwritten manuscripts.
For love and attachment
Write on a piece of white silk cloth by pure musk and yellow saffron and April water drops and put it in the pocket of the shirt below the dress: The saying of the Almighty:
Supplication for affection
For Love
Allamah Naraqi (r.a.) says in Al-Khazain: For clear benefit for love, consideration of the kings and rulers, write it on the first Thursday of the month:
“God is the greatest”, seven times, and “there is no power and strength except by Allah, the Exalted and the Mighty”, seven times, and. Then he should fasten it to himself.
على هح ا د 1412
Then he will obey you and not disobey till it remains fastened on you, and you will not fear snakes, scorpions and beasts and all the creatures created by Allah. It is also one of the proven secrets of the veterans of this blessed art.[7]
[1] Tibb al-Aaimma, As-Sayyid Shubbar, Pg. 424
[2] Surah Aale Imran 3:103
[3] Surah Hujurat 49:13
[4] Surah Ibrahim 14:25
[5] Surah Saff Verses 8-13
[6] Al-Mukhla of Shaykh Bahai, Pg. 188
[7] Quoted from ancient manuscript
Supplication for warding off mischief, plots and for love in the view of people
It is as follows:
[1] Surah Maidah 5:23
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Imām Muhammad ibn ‘Alī al-Baqir (A.S.) said: "A man could be obedient to his parents during their lifetime, then they die and he does not repay their debts or ask Allāh to forgive them, so Allāh records him down as being insolent. Or, he could have been insolent to them during their lifetime and not obedient, but after their death he repays their debts and seeks forgiveness from Allāh for them, Allāh records him down as obedient.’[Reference: al-Kafi, v. 2, p. 163, no. 21 ]
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Allah (S.W.T.) emphasizes the worth and importance of parents at various places in the Holy Qur’an. It is enough for the wise person to realize this when he observes that the obedience of parents is mentioned side by side with the worship of Allah. It is also authentically mentioned that if your parents are not pleased with you all your worship and good deeds are gone waste, they don’t have any value. And it is not limited for the living parents only but even if they are dead you must remember them by praying for them, attributing some good deeds to them, and rectifying their faults (if any) in a proper way. Perhaps at the time of departure from the world the parents were not pleased at heart with their children, but if the children give due attention to their parents’ well-being in the Hereafter by some good deeds, they become pleased to them.
The world that is five feet under the earth is certainly a dreadful place for the sinners. Although we should consider that all are pious and righteous but one never knows in what condition there the diseased is. Perhaps they are enjoying the fruits of their good deeds and perhaps they are in trouble because of some lapse during their lifetime. So if we perform any good deed on their behalf or offer a Namaaz for them they surely are benefited by it, and it is said that our 2 rak’at Namaaz for the Marhoom is better for them then the riches of the whole world. If they are not in any trouble there then the bounties are increased for them and if they are in any tribulation then their pain is lessened or wiped off. Moresover, the performer of good deed is also to be rewarded.
Here below are stated some A’amaal for the benefit of diseased parents, although they are said to benefit them but the performer of these A’amaal are also nicely rewarded. Especially on every Friday-night and on Friday children of the Marhoom should pray for their parents and give charity on their behalf.
Reciting Surah-e-Yaaseen is very beneficial for the Marhoom. He/she is tremendously rewarded for it.
If one recites Surah-e-Mulk and/or 7 times Surah-e-Qadr by the side of Marhoom’s grave, God-forbid if any punishment is being implemented therein, it is instantly ceased.
Pray 2 rak’at Namaaz between Maghrib and Ishaa with Niyyat of Maghfirat-e-Waalidayn.
In the first rak’at after Al-Hamd recite 10 times
رَبِّ اغْفِرْلى وَ لِوالِدَىَّ وَ لِلْمُؤْمِنينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ الْحِسابُ
Rabbigh Firlee Waliwaalidayya Walil Mu’mineena Yawma Yaqoomul Hisaab.
14:41 Grant Thy forgiveness unto me, and my parents, and all the believers, on the Day on which the [last] reckoning will come to pass!"
And in the second rak’at after Al-Hamd recite 10 times
رَبِّ اغْفِرْلى وَ لِوالِدَىَّ وَ لِمَنْ دَخَلَ بَيْتِىَ مُؤْمِناً وَ لِلْمُؤْمِنينَ وَ الْمُؤْمِناتِ
Rabbigh Firlee Waliwaalidayya WalimanDakhala Baytiya Mu’minan Walil Mu’mineena Wal Mu’minaat.
71:28 O my Sustainer! Grant Thy forgiveness unto me and unto my parents, and unto everyone who enters my house as a believer, and unto all believing men and believing women [of later times
Then complete the Namaaz as usual.
Then go into Sajdah and recite 10 times
رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُما كَما رَبَّيانى صَغيراً
—Rabbir Hamhuma Kamaa Rabbayaani Swagheera.
17:24 "O my Sustainer! Bestow Thy grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me when I was a child!"
5. Some Tasbeeh of Salawaat and Istighfaar should be offered on behalf of Marhoomeen every now and then.
7. 2 rak’at, in the first rak’at after Al-Hamd recite once Aayatul Kursee and Surah-e-Ikhalaas 2 times and in the second rak’at after Al-Hamd recite Surah-e- Takaasur 10 times. This also carries a great reward for Marhoom and the reciter also.
8. If at all the son or a daughter did not fulfill the rights of their parent during their lifetime, then they should pray this Namaaz. InshaaAllaah the Marhoom parents shall be pleased with them: Time: on the night between Wednesday and Thursday. In between Maghrib and Ishaa. Niyyat: Fulfillment of the rights of my parent(s). Namaaz; 2 rak’at. In each rak’at after Al-Hamd recite 5 times Aayatul Kursee, 5 times Surah-e-Ikhlaas, 5 times Surah-e-Kaafiroon, 5 times Surah-e-Falak, and 5 times Surah-e-Naas. After you finish praying the Namaaz in this way recite 15 times Astaghfirullaaha Wa Atoobu Ilayh. Dedicate the Sawaab of this A’amaal to the Marhoom parent and you shall get the reward of fulfilling their rights.
9. If at all, you suspect that there were some wrong transactions committed by your parents so you would naturally wish that they should not be punished for that. Therefore its remedy is that first you should try to rectify if possible, try to make the wronged people be pleased with your parents by recompensing some thing that they would appreciate, and then observe this prayer on behalf of your parents: Pray 4 rak’ar Namaaz in sets if 2 rak’at each. In the 1st rak’at after Al-Hamd ecite Surah-e- Ikhlaas 25 times, in the 2nd rak’at 50 times, in the3 rak’at 75 times and in the 4 th rak’at 100 times. After Namaaz recite this Duaa:
Allaahumma Swalli Ala Muhammadin Wa Aali Muhammad,
Bismil-Laahir-Rahmaanir-Raheem.
Yaa Nooras Samaawaati Wal Ardhi Wa Yaa Ghawthak Mustagheeseen, Yaa Jaaral Mustajeereea Antal Munzalu Bika Kullu Haajatin Astaghfiroo Atoobu Ilayka Mimmadhaalimi Katheeratin Li Ibaadika Qablee Allaahumma Fa Ayyu Maa Abdim Min Ibaadika Aw Amatin Min Imaaika Kaanat Lahoo Qablee Mudhlimatun Dhwalamtuhaa Aw Fee Ardhihee Aw Fee Maalihee Aw Fee Ahlihee Wa Waladihee Aw Gheebatun Ightabtahoo Bihaa Aw Tahammulin Alayhi Bimaylin Aw Hawan Aw Anfatin Aw Hamiyyatin Aw Riyaain Aw Asabiyyatin Ghiyaaban Kaana Aw Shaahidan Wa Hayyan Kaana Aw Mayyitan Fa Qasurat Yadee Wa zaaqa Wus’ee Aw Ruddahaa Ilayhi Wat-Tahallulee Minhoo Fa As’aluka Yaa Man Yamlikul Haajata Wa Hiya Mustajeebatun Li Mashiyyatihee Wa Musriatun Ilaa Iraadatihee An Tuswallee Alaa Muhammadin Wa Aali Muhammad Wa An Turdhiyahoo Aniyy Bimaa Shi’ta Min Khazaaini Rahmatika Thumma Tahaba Lee Min Ladunka Rahmatan Innahoo Laa Tanqusukal Maghfiratu Walaa Tadhurrukal Moohibatoo Rabbi Akrimnee Birahmatika Walaa Tukhzinee Bi Dhunoobee Innaka Waasiul Maghfiratee Yaa Arhamar-Raahimeen Allaahuma Swalli Alaa Muhammadin Wa Aali Muhammmad.
Greater Sin : Āq al-Walidayn (Disobedience to parents)
Duas for Deceased (Marhoom) Parents
Imām Muhammad ibn ‘Alī al-Baqir (A.S.) said: "A man could be obedient to his parents during their lifetime, then they die and he does not repay their debts or ask Allāh to forgive them, so Allāh records him down as being insolent. Or, he could have been insolent to them during their lifetime and not obedient, but after their death he repays their debts and seeks forgiveness from Allāh for them, Allāh records him down as obedient.’[Reference: al-Kafi, v. 2, p. 163, no. 21 ]
When visiting the graveyard NEW PDF Book Knocking on Heavens door Comprehensive duas for visiting Graveyard
Allah (S.W.T.) emphasizes the worth and importance of parents at various places in the Holy Qur’an. It is enough for the wise person to realize this when he observes that the obedience of parents is mentioned side by side with the worship of Allah. It is also authentically mentioned that if your parents are not pleased with you all your worship and good deeds are gone waste, they don’t have any value. And it is not limited for the living parents only but even if they are dead you must remember them by praying for them, attributing some good deeds to them, and rectifying their faults (if any) in a proper way. Perhaps at the time of departure from the world the parents were not pleased at heart with their children, but if the children give due attention to their parents’ well-being in the Hereafter by some good deeds, they become pleased to them.
The world that is five feet under the earth is certainly a dreadful place for the sinners. Although we should consider that all are pious and righteous but one never knows in what condition there the diseased is. Perhaps they are enjoying the fruits of their good deeds and perhaps they are in trouble because of some lapse during their lifetime. So if we perform any good deed on their behalf or offer a Namaaz for them they surely are benefited by it, and it is said that our 2 rak’at Namaaz for the Marhoom is better for them then the riches of the whole world. If they are not in any trouble there then the bounties are increased for them and if they are in any tribulation then their pain is lessened or wiped off. Moresover, the performer of good deed is also to be rewarded.
Here below are stated some A’amaal for the benefit of diseased parents, although they are said to benefit them but the performer of these A’amaal are also nicely rewarded. Especially on every Friday-night and on Friday children of the Marhoom should pray for their parents and give charity on their behalf.
Reciting Surah-e-Yaaseen is very beneficial for the Marhoom. He/she is tremendously rewarded for it.
If one recites Surah-e-Mulk and/or 7 times Surah-e-Qadr by the side of Marhoom’s grave, God-forbid if any punishment is being implemented therein, it is instantly ceased.
Pray 2 rak’at Namaaz between Maghrib and Ishaa with Niyyat of Maghfirat-e-Waalidayn.
In the first rak’at after Al-Hamd recite 10 times
Then go into Sajdah and recite 10 times
5. Some Tasbeeh of Salawaat and Istighfaar should be offered on behalf of Marhoomeen every now and then.
6. Pray 2 rak’at Namaaz for the benefit of all past Marhoom, in the first rak’at after Al-Hamd recite Surah-e-Qadr and in the second recite Surah-e-Kawsar.
7. 2 rak’at, in the first rak’at after Al-Hamd recite once Aayatul Kursee and Surah-e-Ikhalaas 2 times and in the second rak’at after Al-Hamd recite Surah-e- Takaasur 10 times. This also carries a great reward for Marhoom and the reciter also.
8. If at all the son or a daughter did not fulfill the rights of their parent during their lifetime, then they should pray this Namaaz. InshaaAllaah the Marhoom parents shall be pleased with them: Time: on the night between Wednesday and Thursday. In between Maghrib and Ishaa. Niyyat: Fulfillment of the rights of my parent(s). Namaaz; 2 rak’at. In each rak’at after Al-Hamd recite 5 times Aayatul Kursee, 5 times Surah-e-Ikhlaas, 5 times Surah-e-Kaafiroon, 5 times Surah-e-Falak, and 5 times Surah-e-Naas. After you finish praying the Namaaz in this way recite 15 times Astaghfirullaaha Wa Atoobu Ilayh. Dedicate the Sawaab of this A’amaal to the Marhoom parent and you shall get the reward of fulfilling their rights.
9. If at all, you suspect that there were some wrong transactions committed by your parents so you would naturally wish that they should not be punished for that. Therefore its remedy is that first you should try to rectify if possible, try to make the wronged people be pleased with your parents by recompensing some thing that they would appreciate, and then observe this prayer on behalf of your parents: Pray 4 rak’ar Namaaz in sets if 2 rak’at each. In the 1st rak’at after Al-Hamd ecite Surah-e- Ikhlaas 25 times, in the 2nd rak’at 50 times, in the3 rak’at 75 times and in the 4 th rak’at 100 times. After Namaaz recite this Duaa:
Allaahumma Swalli Ala Muhammadin Wa Aali Muhammad,
Bismil-Laahir-Rahmaanir-Raheem.
Yaa Nooras Samaawaati Wal Ardhi Wa Yaa Ghawthak Mustagheeseen, Yaa Jaaral Mustajeereea Antal Munzalu Bika Kullu Haajatin Astaghfiroo Atoobu Ilayka Mimmadhaalimi Katheeratin Li Ibaadika Qablee Allaahumma Fa Ayyu Maa Abdim Min Ibaadika Aw Amatin Min Imaaika Kaanat Lahoo Qablee Mudhlimatun Dhwalamtuhaa Aw Fee Ardhihee Aw Fee Maalihee Aw Fee Ahlihee Wa Waladihee Aw Gheebatun Ightabtahoo Bihaa Aw Tahammulin Alayhi Bimaylin Aw Hawan Aw Anfatin Aw Hamiyyatin Aw Riyaain Aw Asabiyyatin Ghiyaaban Kaana Aw Shaahidan Wa Hayyan Kaana Aw Mayyitan Fa Qasurat Yadee Wa zaaqa Wus’ee Aw Ruddahaa Ilayhi Wat-Tahallulee Minhoo Fa As’aluka Yaa Man Yamlikul Haajata Wa Hiya Mustajeebatun Li Mashiyyatihee Wa Musriatun Ilaa Iraadatihee An Tuswallee Alaa Muhammadin Wa Aali Muhammad Wa An Turdhiyahoo Aniyy Bimaa Shi’ta Min Khazaaini Rahmatika Thumma Tahaba Lee Min Ladunka Rahmatan Innahoo Laa Tanqusukal Maghfiratu Walaa Tadhurrukal Moohibatoo Rabbi Akrimnee Birahmatika Walaa Tukhzinee Bi Dhunoobee Innaka Waasiul Maghfiratee Yaa Arhamar-Raahimeen Allaahuma Swalli Alaa Muhammadin Wa Aali Muhammmad.
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From Marriage to Parenthood book
Marriage Handbook
Nikah and Beyond Qfatima.org pdf Islamic Marriage Guidebook - Mubin
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Family Ahkam ppt file
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